Blogs By: Kathy

Why Do You NEED To Win The Argument?

Why do some arguments never end?  Why do you need to win?  Why do you just have to get the other person to see it your way?  These are the very things that keep many couples...

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Finding Your Happy

Where do you find your happy?  So many of us spend our lives chasing it.  Dreaming of it.  Hoping for it. Waiting on it.  Mourning the fact that it hasn’t come yet.  Is it really...

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A True Test Of Character

Want a true test of your character?  Try answering these questions . . .  Does your spouse respect you?  Do people view you as humble?  Do your co-workers trust you to do the...

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Is Your Pain Too Much?

Is your pain too great?  Who gets to say if it’s too big, too small, or just right? When trauma strikes, make no mistake, you will feel the pain of it.  You may sense that you...

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Feelings Are Not Facts!

Here’s a little tidbit to stir up some thought in you. . . feelings are not facts! It is very tempting to trust our very intense and overpowering feelings in the moment, but that...

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Violent Communication

Do you use violent ways to communicate?  I don’t mean physically hurting someone (although we certainly don’t want that, either!)  What I’m talking about are ways that we...

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Is Your No Broken?

Is your No broken?  Do you find you can't say No? Tired of your mouth saying “Yes” when your brain says “No”?  Do you accept invitations out of guilt instead of desire?  Do you...

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Co-Parenting After Divorce

When people get divorced they are often angry, bitter, hurt and devastated.  Their plans have been foiled and their lifestyle has changed.  But in addition to all that, they now...

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Why Everyone Needs Therapy!

Why Everyone Needs Therapy!

I am of the opinion that just about everyone needs therapy.  Why?  Primarily because we can’t see into our own issues!  We see ourselves and our decisions the way we WANT to see...

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3 Parts of You

Do you know the different parts of yourself? Most of us are only vaguely aware of the 3 different parts that I like to talk about in counseling:  The Adult, The Little Boy/Girl,...

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Are You Holding Yourself Back?

Are you holding yourself back?  I read something recently about self-limiting beliefs and it reminded me how important our thoughts are.  I was holding myself back and didn’t...

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Are Your Emotions Unstable?

Do your emotions sometimes feel unstable?  Do you find yourself doing things you thought or promised you wouldn’t do? Does your partner?  You may be experiencing what I call the...

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The Most Powerful Last Word

Do you need to have the last word in an argument?  Why is it so hard to let the conversation die without having the last say?  What drives this compulsive need to make the last...

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How To Gain Control Over Your Life

Want more control over your life?  It is much easier than you think!  We spend so much of our time feeling anxious and out of control and we expend so much energy ruminating and...

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Moving From Victim To Victorious!

When hardship happens in your life, how do you handle it?  Do you metaphorically throw yourself down on the floor and have a kicking, screaming tantrum?  Or do you accept it as...

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Why Is Marriage So Hard?

Why is marriage so hard? We meet the person who fits us perfectly and the love flows so freely, it is difficult to imagine it could ever be hard. So why is it so tough? I have 4...

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