Living In Reactivity

Living In Reactivity

Have you ever been in a relationship living in reactivity, feeling like a screech owl? Some people believe no one can ‘make’ us feel anything. They believe it is all up to us. However, it takes work to understand what triggers our emotional reactions. Before we do...
Taming The Abandonment Beast

Taming The Abandonment Beast

If you have abandonment, you know there is quite an art to taming the abandonment beast.  It is a force to be reckoned with, for sure, and needs to be tamed in order to have a happy, healthy, and stable life.   Where Abandonment Comes From   Abandonment...
Where Is Your Anger Coming From?

Where Is Your Anger Coming From?

Where is your anger coming from? Is everyone mean? Or are we just sleepy, thirsty, or hungry? I recently had a session with a couple that wanted to work on communication in their marriage. They were overworked, exhausted, and said they wanted strategies to better...
Hailstorm vs. Turtle

Hailstorm vs. Turtle

The Hailstorm vs. Turtle is an analogy created by Harville Hendrix to explain some of the very different ways a couple can behave and react within a relationship. Considering all the ways two people in a couple can be so very different, it often looks like the result...