Invitation vs. Expectation

I work with couples regularly who are stuck in the power struggle. They fight with each other over which one is going to act and behave according to the other’s worldview.  It sounds something like this “I know how the world works, and if you would just get on...

Why Couples Can’t Communicate

So many couples entering marriage counseling cite  communication as their chief complaint.  The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate.  The problem is they have stopped communicating with each other.  Here are some things we do that keep us from having productive...

It’s Not About You!!

It’s not about you, Dude!  When your partner is talking about their feelings, it’s not about YOU!  Even when your partner is sharing their feelings about you, it’s not about you!  If you want a relationship that not only survives, but thrives,...