Are you addicted to your smart phone? How do we wrestle with the VERY real connection we have with our cellphones? For a weekend, I tried “breaking up” with my phone, after listening to a TED talk that basically explained how notifications on our phone are basically like slot machines… [Read More]
Are You Letting Your Emotions Control You?
Are you letting your emotions control you instead of the other way around? Maybe you get angry and lash out with insults and criticisms you regret later. Or, maybe you feel like everything is spiraling out of control and are instantly in the midst of a highly anxious and panicked… [Read More]
Co-Parenting Rulebook
Wishing there was a Co-Parenting Rulebook? Parenting alone is hard enough, but parents who are no longer together can opt to continue to work together in order to best serve the needs of their children. Choosing to co-parent after the close of an intimate relationship can be challenging, however, the… [Read More]
Keys To Enhancing Your Sex Life
There are several keys to enhancing your sex life. Whenever I approach the topic of sex with my clients I either get people who are excited to finally have the opportunity to talk about their sex lives or people who are extremely uncomfortable with the topic altogether. One of the… [Read More]
Guilt? Ok Shame? No Way!
GUILT? OK SHAME? NO WAY Allowing guilt to manifest in shame is a harmful process that occurs way too often. Guilt is healthy. Shame is unhealthy. But I am far ahead of myself, let’s start at the beginning. Guilt and shame are often thought of as interchangeable. They are even… [Read More]
A Matter of Perspective
Lately, the phrase “first world problems” has been buzzing around. One minute, our problems can seem so huge and life-changing and the next, after some perspective, the same problem can seem more manageable. It’s interesting how that happens, isn’t it? Worry, anxiety, and depression can cause our problems to… [Read More]
Overcoming Defensiveness
Defensiveness: When individuals feel attacked or misunderstood they often act out in ways to protect themselves. Many individuals get defensive when they are feeling criticized or blamed. When we get defensive we essentially take that blame and put it on the other person. A Better Understanding of Defensiveness: I… [Read More]
The Pain Of Projection
I recently got a vivid reminder of the power – and pain – of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe that the other person actually feels that way. Think of a slide projector – if the slide in… [Read More]
Sometimes Intimacy Hurts
Today I would like to discuss one of the finer points of intimacy. There is a mis-conception I’d like to take a swing at clearing up, about what intimacy actually is and how to do it well. In particular, I’d like to talk today about how sometimes intimacy hurts. … [Read More]
The Cure For Loneliness
There are lots of times when clients come in to my office and talk about feeling lonely. They may even be married and have lots of friends, and still they say that they are lonely. The truth is, you can absolutely feel lonely sitting smack dab in the middle of… [Read More]
