by Karen | Jul 20, 2014 | Anger, Uncategorized
Referring to reactivity, most think of it in a negative context. It is not always screeching (please refer to blog entitled ‘My Life as a Screech Owl’) nagging or crying. Reactivity can also be self-soothing, withdrawing, cutting off, and the list goes on. In fact, I... by Kathy | May 25, 2014 | Marriage
Everybody gets angry. It is a normal human emotion that we all have to deal with, but anger gets a bad rap. Most of us see it as a bad, destructive thing, but our anger is actually trying to tell us something! If we know what we are doing, understanding our anger... by Javan | Dec 1, 2013 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
The resistance to acknowledge childhood and family of origin issues is common. What you learn and tell yourself about your life experiences in your childhood is crucial to understanding and recognizing the obstacles in your marriage. These are defenses that have been... by Kathy | Nov 24, 2013 | Marriage
I’ve often said that anger is not about the other person, and that is true, but what does that mean? How do you get control of out of control anger? Intense anger is really a result of a poorly differentiated “self”. Let me explain . . . Self-differentiation is... by Karen | Oct 13, 2013 | Uncategorized
Say it loud and proud, “COUNTER-DEPENDENT!” That is how I am feeling right now. It began a couple of months ago when someone insinuated I should work toward eliminating my counter dependent issues. The person happened to be a fellow therapist and counter dependent....