by Kathy | Mar 2, 2015 | Abandonment, Anxiety, Codependent, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Marriage, Self-Help, Uncategorized
Do you ever become aware of a need and then immediately feel guilty? Or maybe you have a need but feel guilty asking for it to be met? Perhaps you hesitate asking for your need to be met because you will then feel like you owe the person something? The guilt and... by Karen | Sep 22, 2014 | Differentiation, Self Abandonment
When is productivity destructive? Productivity is destructive when it is a need. There is a difference between doing tasks as they need to be done and the need to be productive. We all know people who describe themselves as “so busy” with a combination of pride and... by Javan | May 9, 2014 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
For the purpose of this blog, I’m discussing anxiousness that many people feel that takes away their ability to be present or stable during relationship conflict. Many people experience stress as a major factor that influences their lives. Stress is really about... by Javan | May 2, 2014 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
The Shame Pimp steals your time, hope, and self-respect. What makes you doubt your abilities? What steals your joy? Becoming disillusioned by shame creates over reactions and over reaching. Sometimes even hopelessness. Shame is another layer of emotional bindings. The... by Javan | Oct 10, 2013 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
How comfortable are you with being yourself to your partner? It seems hard to imagine that after living with someone for years, that we wouldn’t be ourselves. However, in marriage counseling, clients often express behaviors and communications that indicate...