Pain from an Affair

Dealing with someone you love who feels distant, uncommitted, and is possibly having an affair can be gut wrenching and painful. The sting of  betrayal, the lousy levels of intimacy, and the all around detachment is the last thing you thought you would end up with,...

Why Enmeshment Causes Fighting

Why does enmeshment cause a couple to fight?  Enmeshment is a term we use to describe a relationship that is too close, too “other” centered, and is too dependent on the other person to get their needs met.  Most people see enmeshment as the lovey-dovey, gooey love...

How Do You Seek Relief?

How do you seek relief when you are in emotional pain?  We all have our “go to” methods that we use to give ourselves immediate relief. . . food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex, shopping, porn, isolating ourselves, controlling others, defensiveness, complaining,...

Who Stole My Innocence?

I spent last evening with my dear friend and her 13 month old son.  Something struck me about him that I just couldn’t get over.  I kept trying to figure it out all evening.  I love babies, but it wasn’t just his cuteness factor (although this one was pretty darn...