Hailstorm vs. Turtle

Hailstorm vs. Turtle

The Hailstorm vs. Turtle is an analogy created by Harville Hendrix to explain some of the very different ways a couple can behave and react within a relationship. Considering all the ways two people in a couple can be so very different, it often looks like the result...

Sometimes Intimacy Hurts

Today I would like to discuss one of the finer points of intimacy.  There is a mis-conception I’d like to take a swing at clearing up, about what intimacy actually is and how to do it well.  In particular, I’d like to talk today about how sometimes intimacy hurts.   ...

The Cure For Loneliness

There are lots of times when clients come in to my office and talk about feeling lonely. They may even be married and have lots of friends, and still they say that they are lonely. The truth is, you can absolutely feel lonely sitting smack dab in the middle of a group...

Instant Gratification

Wow, do we live in a culture that loves it some instant gratification, am I right? I’m reminded of a video I saw once where a gal was going around asking random people on the street what they would wish for if they could have a wish. I’ll never forget, one person...

“It’s Going to be OK”

I had a client the other day remind me of something that illustrates a great point about being a good friend…particularly being a good friend when your friend is in pain for some reason. How do you comfort those closest to you when they are hurting? That’s what we’re...