Blame

Blame

Blame Is Ugly The Blame Game is a trap to keep you in a lower position in life. Blaming says, “there’s nothing I can do about how I feel or respond to this scenario. I have no control, so I’m a victim.” It also perpetuates the “she or he is the bad guy, villain, and...
Hailstorm vs. Turtle

Hailstorm vs. Turtle

The Hailstorm vs. Turtle is an analogy created by Harville Hendrix to explain some of the very different ways a couple can behave and react within a relationship. Considering all the ways two people in a couple can be so very different, it often looks like the result...

What do you mean by that?

Have you ever been in a conversation where someone smiled, acted polite, and used all of the politically correct phrasing… but something just felt off? Or have you ever said yes to someone’s request, when you really wanted to say, “no”? Intention – the driving...

Why Couples Can’t Communicate

So many couples entering marriage counseling cite  communication as their chief complaint.  The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate.  The problem is they have stopped communicating with each other.  Here are some things we do that keep us from having productive...

You Spot It, You Got It!

It never ceases to amaze me.  The longer I work with a couple and the more layers that get peeled back, it is fascinating how very much alike the two people are!  I heard an interesting concept awhile back that perfectly sums up what it is that I am witnessing . . ....