{"id":3502,"date":"1970-01-01T00:00:00","date_gmt":"1970-01-01T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/a-thorn-in-your-paw\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:43","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:43","slug":"a-thorn-in-your-paw","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/a-thorn-in-your-paw\/","title":{"rendered":"A Thorn In Your Paw"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In the course of my 5 years as a marriage counselor, I still am amazed at times at how people&#8217;s knee jerk reactions are so self-defeating. \u00a0They can&#8217;t see it, of course, not even a <em>glimpse<\/em>! \u00a0It is, however, plain as day to me, the neutral body watching in horror as people systematically destroy the relationship they want so desperately.<\/p>\n<p>I once heard, in my training, that the couples who fight the hardest, most brutal fights are the ones who want the relationship to work the most. \u00a0I totally didn&#8217;t &#8216;get it&#8217; then, but I sure do now. \u00a0Let&#8217;s look at the core of the fight instead of the spitting anger and dishes flying. \u00a0What he wants more than anything is for her to <em>love <\/em>him. \u00a0As he communicates what he needs, in unclear and unhealthy ways, it triggers her issue, let&#8217;s say it makes her feel like she&#8217;s doin<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the course of my 5 years as a marriage counselor, I still am amazed at times at how people&#8217;s knee jerk reactions are so self-defeating. \u00a0They can&#8217;t see it, of course, not even a glimpse! \u00a0It is, however, plain as day to me, the neutral body watching in horror as people systematically destroy the [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[50],"class_list":["post-3502","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3502","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3502"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3502\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3522,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3502\/revisions\/3522"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3502"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3502"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3502"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}