{"id":3552,"date":"2012-02-19T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2012-02-19T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/how-to-have-an-awesome-marriage\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:45","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:45","slug":"how-to-have-an-awesome-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/how-to-have-an-awesome-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Have An Awesome Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

People search the world over to find out how to have an awesome marriage, but do you know why they have such a hard time finding it?\u00a0 It is because they want what is easy<\/em>, not the truth!\u00a0 The truth is, if you want an awesome marriage, you’re going to have to grow and change – a lot<\/strong><\/em>!<\/p>\n

I don’t mean that you change who you are. I mean that you are willing to learn and make improvements on yourself.\u00a0 Seriously, while you may be a great person in a lot of ways, you’re no picnic to live with!\u00a0 Most of us naively waltzed down the aisle thinking marriage was going to be easy.\u00a0 That’s because the relationship was<\/strong><\/em> easy in the beginning.\u00a0 When it gets hard, we look for our partner to change, but we fail to see how we need to change and grow ourselves.<\/p>\n

Marriage pairs us up with someone who is close enough to see ALL the qualities about us \u2013 good and<\/em><\/strong> bad.\u00a0 Our partner is there to help us, not hurt us, by gently showing us the things that we can\u2019t see.\u00a0 This gives us a wonderful opportunity to hone our good qualities and work on our not-so-wonderful ones!<\/p>\n

How do you rate in the following areas?<\/p>\n

Humility<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Can you set aside your pride long enough to hear that you could use some improvement? Can you see that the very thing you gripe at your partner about is something that you do yourself?\u00a0 Can you apologize, genuinely, when you make a mistake or hurt your partner?<\/p>\n

Strength<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Are you strong enough to ride out the waves of disconnection and closeness in your relationship?\u00a0 Are you strong enough to grow?\u00a0 Are you strong enough to be okay if the relationship doesn\u2019t work out?<\/p>\n

Honesty<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Are you honest enough to tell the truth to your partner about how you feel and how you experience them?\u00a0 Are you honest enough to admit to your own faults and failures?<\/p>\n

Grace<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Are you able to forgive your partner for hurts – real or perceived?\u00a0 Are you able to forgive yourself for your own mistakes and failures?\u00a0 Can you see and be compassionate to the tender, wounded person that lives inside of your partner?<\/p>\n

Flexibility<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Are you flexible enough to bend and stretch as you, your partner, and your life change?\u00a0 Can you allow things to not always go your way?<\/p>\n

Attentiveness<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Can you invest time in your relationship?\u00a0 Can you set yourself aside long enough to attend to your partner\u2019s needs?\u00a0 Can you prioritize your partner\u2019s needs at least on par with your own?<\/p>\n

Love<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Can you love your partner enough to be happy for them if they are getting their needs met, even if that means your needs are not?\u00a0 Can you recognize that love is not a noun, it is a verb and therefore it requires action?<\/p>\n

An awesome relationship is possible, but only if both<\/strong><\/em> people can learn about themselves and grow in these important areas over the course of a lifetime.\u00a0 It may not be the answer that you want to hear, but it is the truth.\u00a0 You can’t have a fantastic relationship without growth.\u00a0 It just doesn’t happen.\u00a0 Growing and changing is required much like water and food is required for a sapling to grow into a majestic redwood.\u00a0 Are you strong enough to grow?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

People search the world over to find out how to have an awesome marriage, but do you know why they have such a hard time finding it?\u00a0 It is because they want what is easy, not the truth!\u00a0 The truth is, if you want an awesome marriage, you’re going to have to grow and change […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[25,18,17],"tags":[527,470,438,528,529,479,500,429,409],"class_list":["post-3552","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication","category-marriage","category-relationships","tag-attentiveness","tag-couples","tag-forgiveness","tag-how-to-have-an-awesome-marriage","tag-humility-in-relationships","tag-love","tag-marital-conflict","tag-marriage","tag-relationship"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3552","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3552"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3552\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4180,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3552\/revisions\/4180"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3552"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3552"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3552"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}