I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week!\u00a0 I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience.\u00a0 Less than 30 minutes later, I felt myself getting agitated at my own mother for something senseless and petty.\u00a0 I realized my hypocrisy and chuckled to myself, but it got me thinking. . .<\/p>\n
How many times have I done that?!<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0 How often have I judged someone for something that I wouldn\u2019t want to be judged about?\u00a0 I absolutely hated not being forgiven for my mistakes as a child, but have I withheld forgiveness of others?\u00a0 Have I abandoned people I care about when there\u2019s nothing that crushes me more than being abandoned myself?\u00a0 Do I criticize people that I love only to call them out for criticizing me?<\/p>\n My mind began to explode<\/em> with all of these parallels of life.\u00a0 No doubt, we are surrounded by them every single day, but most of us are so unaware that we don\u2019t see them!<\/p>\n One woman, who hated her angry and critical father, screams at her own kids for dirtying the floor.\u00a0 Later, she puts her daughter in time out for \u201cbeing mean\u201d to her little brother.<\/p>\n One guy criticized and snapped at his wife for years because he felt badly about himself.\u00a0 Now she is not there and he feels worse than ever about himself.<\/p>\n She always felt she had to be perfect to be loved.\u00a0 In her pursuit of perfection, she wasn\u2019t much fun to be around.\u00a0 He cheated on her with someone who he could \u2018have fun\u2019 with. She grew up in chaos and unpredictability.\u00a0 She sought to control everything and everyone around her.\u00a0 She ran away to find peace.\u00a0 She found it for a time, but gradually the chaos began to find her again.\u00a0 She is now more out of control than ever.<\/p>\n He complained to his wife for her lack of intimacy and affection.\u00a0 His barrage of complaints had left her fearful of opening herself up to him (unsafe).\u00a0 He refused to give her safety; she refused to give him intimacy.\u00a0 Once divorced, he won\u2019t be getting intimacy or affection; and she won\u2019t have safety or security.<\/p>\n A Mom wants forgiveness from her son for something she did to hurt him.\u00a0 He criticizes her for not forgiving his father, who betrayed her.\u00a0 She wants forgiveness from her son, but can\u2019t forgive her husband.\u00a0 The son criticizes her inability to forgive, but won\u2019t offer her forgiveness.<\/p>\n Now let me REALLY blow your mind and take this full circle . . .<\/p>\n You want to be forgiven?\u00a0<\/strong><\/em> Learn how to forgive.<\/span><\/em> I pray you each receive the gift of seeing the amazing parallels in your own life!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week!\u00a0 I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience.\u00a0 Less than 30 minutes later, I felt myself getting agitated at my own mother for something senseless and petty.\u00a0 I realized my hypocrisy and chuckled to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,21,25,18,17],"tags":[394,601,445,602,603,604,499,605,539,606,607],"class_list":["post-3571","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-addiction","category-affairs","category-communication","category-marriage","category-relationships","tag-abandonment","tag-abuse","tag-addiction","tag-clarity","tag-criticism","tag-insight","tag-intimacy","tag-out-of-control","tag-perfection","tag-unforgiveness","tag-workaholic"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3571"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3571"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3571\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4198,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3571\/revisions\/4198"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3571"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3571"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3571"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nHe wanted nothing more as a young boy than to spend time with his Dad.\u00a0 Now as a father himself, he works so much he is too tired to spend time with his own kids.<\/p>\n
\nYou want to not be judged?<\/strong>\u00a0 Stop judging and criticizing.<\/span><\/em>
\nWant people to stop abandoning you?<\/strong>\u00a0 Learn how to be there for yourself.<\/span><\/em>
\nYou want to gain control of your life?<\/strong>\u00a0 Learn how to let go.<\/span><\/em>
\nYou want the approval of others?<\/strong>\u00a0 Learn how to accept a compliment.<\/span><\/em>
\nYou want intimacy with others?<\/strong>\u00a0 Learn how to make it safe for others to be intimate with you.<\/span><\/em>
\nYou want to feel good about yourself?\u00a0<\/strong> Look your faults, fears and failures square in the eye and accept that they are part of who you are.\u00a0 Then work to change them.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n