Who are you really? You may think you know, but may I suggest examining these two components to who we are?\u00a0 The Person I Present To The World (False Self) and Who I Really Am (True Self).<\/p>\n
The Person I Present To The World is smart, kind, charming, helpful, sweet, compassionate, forgiving, trustworthy and thoughtful.\u00a0 She follows through on details, never lets anyone down, and does the right things at all times.\u00a0 She is measured and controlled and mature in her responses, even when the people around her act like toddlers.\u00a0 It is who we want to be.<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0 When we present this side of ourselves to the world, they like us \u2013 a lot!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n By contrast, Who I Really Am may be scared, lonely, addictive, critical, angry, insecure, hurt, arrogant, hopeless, selfish, lying, \u00a0impulsive, entitled, secretive, immature, reactive, hurtful, know-it-all, a drunk, unforgiving, weak, lazy, sinful, etc. She denies this part of herself, trying to keep it hidden from the world, and herself.\u00a0 Annoyingly, it seeps out at the most inopportune moments. Only those closest to her know of her existence.\u00a0 Ironically, the more we try to hide the true self, the harder we have to work to maintain false self and the farther we get from being who we want to be.<\/p>\n We\u2019ve all seen the person who presents themselves as cocky and sure of themselves, but everybody can see they are really insecure underneath?\u00a0 It\u2019s not attractive, is it?<\/p>\n The False Self would like to deny the True Self\u2019s existence!\u00a0 So my question to you is . . . how big is the gap between your False Self (The Person You Present To The World) and your True Self (Who You Are Really)?\u00a0 Guess what? \u00a0The wider the margin between the two, the more difficulty you are going to have in your life.<\/p>\n It is natural for us to want to cover up the parts of ourselves that we don\u2019t like.\u00a0 As we mature, however, we should be more and more comfortable with admitting that these aspects of ourselves don\u2019t always align.\u00a0 This admission and acceptance gives way to self-improvement – and with the self-improvement comes maturity and with maturity comes freedom!<\/p>\n If you want to have a healthy life, get to work narrowing the gap between The Person You Present To The World and Who You Are Really. \u00a0I\u2019m not saying to unleash the beast, but I am saying to accept that it exists and work to change those parts of you.\u00a0 The more you deny Who You Are Really, the longer you stay enslaved to the False Self.<\/p>\n To admit that you are a flawed human being and that on some level you are not who you want to be is to release yourself from prison.\u00a0 You no longer have to hide, lie, or cover up.\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to pretend anymore!\u00a0 You can just live in the truth and be who you are.\u00a0 It is the ultimate freedom.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Who are you really? You may think you know, but may I suggest examining these two components to who we are?\u00a0 The Person I Present To The World (False Self) and Who I Really Am (True Self). The Person I Present To The World is smart, kind, charming, helpful, sweet, compassionate, forgiving, trustworthy and thoughtful.\u00a0 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[394,445,756,757,589,758,759,410,436,760],"class_list":["post-3603","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage","tag-abandonment","tag-addiction","tag-false-self","tag-how-can-i-stop-hiding","tag-how-to-have-a-happy-life","tag-i-want-to-be-free","tag-partners-of-sex-addicts","tag-sex-addiction","tag-shame","tag-stop-pretending"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3603","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3603"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3603\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4230,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3603\/revisions\/4230"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3603"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3603"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3603"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}