Marriage counseling is supposed to fix marriages, isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 Well, not exactly.\u00a0 In my humble opinion, marriage counseling is just a temporary patch.<\/p>\n
When a couple comes in and they are experiencing problems, focusing on the marriage and getting the marriage back to running smoothly should not<\/em><\/strong> be the goal!\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because it only addresses symptoms of the real problem. The real problem is the unhealthy behavior in the individuals<\/em><\/strong> in the marriage!\u00a0 Each person needs to look at their own unhealthiness, figure out where it comes from, and then work to make themselves healthier (that\u2019s called recovery!).<\/p>\n If we don\u2019t fix what\u2019s wounded in the two individuals, then a healthy marriage cannot be had.<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0 Oh sure, you can patch it up a bit and gimp the marriage along for awhile, but you will miss some extremely important life lessons.\u00a0 It is through finding out what is broken in us, and working on ourselves, that we can \u00a0ultimately experience self-fulfillment, peace, and true joy.\u00a0 It is by being humbled to our very core, that we learn to fully love ourselves and to be loved by others.\u00a0 Simply working on the mechanics of being a good marital partner won\u2019t turn you into a good spouse.\u00a0 If that were true, we could theoretically marry a robot, and be quite happy (have you seen The Stepford Wives?)\u00a0 Being humble and open \u00a0enough to admit that you are broken, and being dedicated to working on being the best person that you can be is the best way to be a good spouse.<\/p>\n You are much more than a spouse!<\/strong> <\/em>\u00a0If you want to reap the benefits this life has to offer, I encourage you to take your focus off of your marriage and focus on being who and what you were created to be.\u00a0\u00a0 Find your life\u2019s purpose.\u00a0 Love and serve others.\u00a0 Learn what your marriage has to teach you.\u00a0 Experience personal growth through the trials in your life.\u00a0 Find personal fulfillment.\u00a0 Find God.\u00a0 Let the marriage fall into place because you are being who you are and doing what you were meant to do!\u00a0 When things get back into balance, you will see that marriage is not meant to make<\/em><\/strong> your life.\u00a0 Marriage is meant to enrich<\/em><\/strong> your life through not only the joys, but also the sorrows it brings.\u00a0 If there is too much focus on keeping your marriage together, you might miss the full and wonderful richness personal growth!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Marriage counseling is supposed to fix marriages, isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 Well, not exactly.\u00a0 In my humble opinion, marriage counseling is just a temporary patch. When a couple comes in and they are experiencing problems, focusing on the marriage and getting the marriage back to running smoothly should not be the goal!\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because it only addresses […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[938,939,447,940,898,941,942],"class_list":["post-3638","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage","tag-how-to-fix-marriage","tag-how-to-heal-marriage","tag-marriage-counseling","tag-personal-growth","tag-prevent-divorce","tag-save-my-marriage","tag-what-are-we-fighting-for"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3638","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3638"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3638\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4265,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3638\/revisions\/4265"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3638"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3638"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3638"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}