{"id":3639,"date":"2013-03-31T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-03-31T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/a-mature-kind-of-love\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:52","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:52","slug":"a-mature-kind-of-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/a-mature-kind-of-love\/","title":{"rendered":"A Mature Kind Of Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

What kind of love do you have for your significant other?\u00a0 We trade the \u201cL\u201d word, but what does the concept of love really mean?\u00a0 I think the kind of love we all want<\/strong> <\/em>is a mature kind of love, but what most of us know how to do is really a quite immature form of love!<\/p>\n

Strong, sudden and overwhelming feelings of attraction and connection are what most of us recognize as romantic love.\u00a0 It is so powerful and consuming that we actually get a physical \u201chigh\u201d from it.\u00a0 It makes us crazy!\u00a0 We do things that do not make sense in its wake.\u00a0 This is an immature kind of love.\u00a0 The feelings are so powerful that they take control of our good judgment and cause us to do things that later we cannot understand or may even regret.<\/p>\n

An immature kind of love is like a mirage.\u00a0 It is falling in love with someone\u2019s good side and refusing to acknowledge, or minimizing, their not-so-good side.\u00a0 It looks so real<\/em><\/strong>, and is so believable that we bank everything on it only to find out that what seemed so real was able to dissipate right before our eyes!\u00a0 This beginning kind of love is not a bad thing, necessarily, but it is important to understand that it is immature.<\/p>\n

A mature kind of love, on the other hand, is not fleeting, but is deep and pure; it grows and deepens over time.\u00a0 It is not skin deep and based on beauty so that when looks fade, so does the love.\u00a0 A mature kind of love sees the whole person \u2013 their character, their strengths, their vulnerabilities, their inner and outer beauty, the child within their heart \u2013 and loves all<\/em><\/strong> of it. While a mature kind of love is endeared towards their partner\u2019s faults and failings, it loves them enough to help make them better because that is what\u2019s best for them<\/em><\/strong>, not for our own benefit.\u00a0 A mature kind of love has their partner\u2019s best interests in mind.\u00a0 It allows us to put ourselves aside for the good of our partner.\u00a0 A mature kind of love is patient, there is no hurry.\u00a0 A mature kind of love can be trusted and is carefree \u2013 absent of fear that it will be yanked away from us suddenly and without warning.<\/p>\n

Let me sum this up:\u00a0 An immature kind of love is about ourselves.\u00a0 A mature kind of love is about the other person! <\/em><\/strong>\u00a0Are you willing to make sacrifices for the one you love?\u00a0 If so, are you doing it for them or for you?\u00a0 Can you do what is best for your partner even if it means you don\u2019t get what you want?\u00a0 Can you be honest enough with yourself to see the real reasons behind the things you do with your partner?\u00a0 Can you love without resentment? (Resentment is about you<\/em>, not about your partner.)\u00a0 Can you love your partner even when not being loved back?\u00a0 Are you driven to be a better person because your partner deserves it?\u00a0 Can you love them on their worst day?<\/p>\n

Mature love is a conscious decision to give love without regard to our own personal gain.\u00a0 Are you mature enough to love maturely?<\/p>\n

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What kind of love do you have for your significant other?\u00a0 We trade the \u201cL\u201d word, but what does the concept of love really mean?\u00a0 I think the kind of love we all want is a mature kind of love, but what most of us know how to do is really a quite immature form […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[943,944,779,407,945,946,947,447,948,898,949,950],"class_list":["post-3639","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage","tag-carefree-love","tag-fleeting-love","tag-good-marriage","tag-indianapolis-marriage-counseling","tag-long-lasting-love","tag-love-is-patient","tag-love-that-endures","tag-marriage-counseling","tag-mature-love","tag-prevent-divorce","tag-save-marriage","tag-want-to-be-loved"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3639","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3639"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3639\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4266,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3639\/revisions\/4266"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3639"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3639"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3639"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}