{"id":3642,"date":"2013-04-14T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-04-14T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/2-communication-elements-that-work-like-magic\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:53","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:53","slug":"2-communication-elements-that-work-like-magic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/2-communication-elements-that-work-like-magic\/","title":{"rendered":"2 Communication Elements That Work Like Magic"},"content":{"rendered":"

What 2 elements does communication need in order for it to work?\u00a0 Couples always come in saying their problem is \u201ccommunication\u201d \u2013 and that is A<\/em><\/strong> problem, but it is not THE<\/em><\/strong> problem.\u00a0 THE<\/em><\/strong> problem is that they cannot communicate without 2 crucial elements. . .<\/p>\n

HUMILITY<\/em><\/strong> \u2013 A good conversation with your spouse just will not work without humility.\u00a0 If you are going to share your life with someone, you are going to have to be able to hear that you are wrong sometimes!\u00a0 You have to be able to hear that something you do hurts your spouse or that they need you to change something so that they can get their needs met.\u00a0 No, your spouse isn\u2019t supposed to change who you are, but we have to be able to make some modifications in order to accommodate our spouse from time to time.\u00a0 If you are unwilling to make any changes for your spouse, then you probably shouldn\u2019t be in a relationship anyway!<\/p>\n

Having the humility to look inward and recognize that you are not perfect and sometimes you might actually be quite a pain is essential to a relationship.\u00a0 This not only makes the relationship flow more smoothly and build a healthy, intimate bond with our spouse, but it also helps us to grow into a better person overall!<\/p>\n

EMPATHY<\/em><\/strong> \u2013 Empathy is the 2nd<\/sup> element necessary for healthy communication with your partner.\u00a0 What is it like for your spouse to be feeling what they are feeling?\u00a0 What is it like for them to have to talk to you about it?\u00a0 What do you know about your partner\u2019s life experience that contributes to them feeling the way that they do (i.e., extra sensitive to criticism, fear of conflict, fear of abandonment, etc.)\u00a0 What has happened between the two of you in the past that might make communication difficult between you now (i.e., if you have not been humble in the past, they may have difficulty trusting that you will be now)?<\/p>\n

If you can keep the conversation focused on the other person and what they are feeling and experiencing, the conversation will be productive.\u00a0 As soon as we lose that empathy and make it about ourselves (defensiveness, attacking, blaming, taking it personally, etc.) it goes off the tracks!<\/p>\n

When we learn how to incorporate humility with ourselves and empathy for our spouse into our relationship, I guarantee things will begin to go more smoothly.\u00a0 I have seen the most hardened person melt when they finally saw the person they love and want to be loved by show humility and empathy towards them.\u00a0 Keep in mind, however, these elements are not just \u201ctricks\u201d to use in conversation.\u00a0 The real effect on the relationship comes from making these two elements a part of your every day interaction with your spouse because you love them<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0 When your spouse begins to trust that you have a consistent spirit of humility and empathy about you, your relationship will show it \u2013 I promise!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

What 2 elements does communication need in order for it to work?\u00a0 Couples always come in saying their problem is \u201ccommunication\u201d \u2013 and that is A problem, but it is not THE problem.\u00a0 THE problem is that they cannot communicate without 2 crucial elements. . . HUMILITY \u2013 A good conversation with your spouse just […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[959,522,960,646,961,962,963,964,528,965,966,967,837,447,968,524],"class_list":["post-3642","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage","tag-cant-hear","tag-communication","tag-divorce-busting","tag-empathy","tag-how-to-be-heard","tag-how-to-communicate-in-marriage","tag-how-to-get-your-husband-to-listen","tag-how-to-get-your-wife-to-listen","tag-how-to-have-an-awesome-marriage","tag-how-to-talk-to-my-husband","tag-how-to-talk-to-my-spouse","tag-how-to-talk-to-my-wife","tag-humility","tag-marriage-counseling","tag-unhappy-marriage","tag-why-cant-we-communicate"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3642","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3642"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3642\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4269,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3642\/revisions\/4269"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3642"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3642"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3642"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}