There is a common thread amongst most of the women that I speak to.\u00a0 Some of you may hear it and disagree, but I challenge you to dig deep into the recesses of your soul and see if maybe the shoe fits.\u00a0 I think most all women secretly long to be taken care of<\/i><\/b>.<\/p>\n
Think about it.\u00a0 We are natural caretakers.\u00a0 We are programmed, biologically, to bear, birth, feed, nurture, and care for our children, but those qualities don\u2019t stop there.\u00a0 Most of us honestly feel empathy for anyone who is in need.\u00a0 Oh sure, our culture adds and subtracts from what God instilled in our DNA, but for the most part, we can\u2019t deny that this is true for many women.\u00a0 So we rock our babies, have concern for our husbands, our siblings, our parents, our neighbors, perfect strangers, our pets, stranger\u2019s pets, stranger\u2019s kids, etc.\u00a0 Today’s women can have a family, career, home, leap tall buildings in a single bound, etc., but it comes at a price.\u00a0\u00a0 We are physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually spent and we are longing for someone to take care of us<\/strong><\/em>!<\/p>\n So what is the message here?<\/p>\n One<\/i><\/b>:\u00a0 Men, acknowledge that the women in your life work hard to take care of you and everyone else around you and they need you to sometimes acknowledge that and invest something back into them.\u00a0 Give her what it is that she<\/strong> <\/em>needs, not what you need!<\/p>\n Two<\/i><\/b>:\u00a0 Women, acknowledge that you both want and need<\/i><\/b> to be taken care of.\u00a0 You most likely stink at taking good care of yourself and when someone else offers to take care of you, you probably feel guilty and refuse it!\u00a0 Learn what fills your tank and learn to accept other people\u2019s offers to take care of you!<\/p>\n Three<\/i><\/b>:\u00a0 Women, you have<\/i><\/b> to be able to define what \u201ctaking care of you\u201d looks like.\u00a0 We associate being taken care of with a feeling<\/i><\/b>, not an action.\u00a0 When someone\u2019s action doesn\u2019t create the feeling we are looking for, we are disappointed and dejected.\u00a0 We hang our heads and sigh, believing that we are the only one that is interested in taking care of us.\u00a0 The people around us are going to have a hard time taking care of us when we<\/i><\/b> don\u2019t even know what we want and need!<\/p>\n Four<\/i><\/b>:\u00a0 Women, if you hear nothing else, please hear this:\u00a0 you need to learn how to invest some of your own masterful caretaking talents on yourself!\u00a0 Sitting and waiting for someone else to do it will not cut it!\u00a0I realize it does not match the romantic ideals that you grew up with, but you simply must learn how to treat yourself well!\u00a0 Sometimes this involves buying yourself flowers or taking a bubble bath. \u00a0Sometimes it involves \u00a0saying no and allowing someone to be disappointed so that you can spend some time recharging yourself.\u00a0 Regardless what it looks like, it is absolutely necessary and your ability to take care of others depends on it!<\/p>\n Ladies, I encourage you to explore this area in yourself.\u00a0 If it fits, have the courage to admit to it and change it so you can finally get your needs met.\u00a0 Guys, I challenge you to ask the lady in your life how she feels about this.\u00a0 It might just be the key to getting more of what you<\/i><\/b> want in the relationship, too!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" There is a common thread amongst most of the women that I speak to.\u00a0 Some of you may hear it and disagree, but I challenge you to dig deep into the recesses of your soul and see if maybe the shoe fits.\u00a0 I think most all women secretly long to be taken care of. 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