{"id":3657,"date":"2013-07-07T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-07-07T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/how-some-people-ruin-their-own-lives\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:54","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:54","slug":"how-some-people-ruin-their-own-lives","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/how-some-people-ruin-their-own-lives\/","title":{"rendered":"How Some People Ruin Their Own Lives"},"content":{"rendered":"

Are you unknowingly ruining your life with victim thinking?\u00a0 A victim is someone who is on the receiving end of some kind of mistreatment.\u00a0 We all have this to a certain degree, but where do you stand?\u00a0 If you don\u2019t recognize this in yourself, it may be causing a lot of misery in your life!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Let me start by saying, that if your life feels completely miserable, this is probably you, so please try to hear this!<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0 Your life won\u2019t change until you understand this concept!\u00a0 A \u00a0victim is someone who has no control over their life.\u00a0 They are frequently disappointed over the way someone has treated them.\u00a0 People don\u2019t love them enough! \u00a0People don\u2019t spend enough time with them! \u00a0People don\u2019t treat them they way they want to be treated!\u00a0 Any pain the victim feels can be tied to something someone did, or didn\u2019t do. \u00a0Sometimes they are like a severe burn victim \u2013 literally everything hurts!\u00a0 \u00a0Anytime the wind blows and the victim feels slighted, they sink into themselves and review \u00a0their growing list of slights \u00a0and become miserable.\u00a0 No one could \u201clove\u201d them enough to pull them out of that place!<\/p>\n

At first, being a victim is alluring.\u00a0 When I\u2019m a victim, nothing is my fault!\u00a0 Who wouldn\u2019t want that??\u00a0 If I feel pain and it is someone else\u2019s fault, then I can spend my time nursing my pain and don\u2019t have to experience the pain of \u00a0examining myself.\u00a0 People feel sorry for me when I\u2019m in pain, so I get a lot of attention!\u00a0 \u00a0So there is some benefit in being a victim, but that is the extent of it and it is very short lived!\u00a0 You may not be \u2018at fault\u2019, but you\u2019re still hurting!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

After the victim cycle of woe has taken off, we become dependent on everyone else for our happiness.\u00a0 Our loved ones feed into that process and we do<\/em><\/strong> feel genuinely happy \u2013 as long as they are feeding us a steady diet of what we need.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em> Eventually that becomes exhausting, however, and there will be a slight.\u00a0 The victim pounces on it.\u00a0 The other person backs up a little.\u00a0 The victim goes into deep despair over a seemingly small offense.\u00a0 While at first, the people around the victim will try to help them up out of that place, eventually, they catch on. . . nothing is good enough to satisfy!\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t seem like the victim really wants out of their misery.\u00a0 They always nestle back into their victim seat, content to lash out at everyone for slighting them while all the while feeling miserable. \u00a0Eventually the thing they feared the most has come true . . . people don\u2019t want to be around them at all.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Sadly, what is really happening is that a victim trades out the long term love they want for the short term satisfaction of being able to blame everyone else for their pain.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

When you know what it is and you see it in someone else, it is like watching a train wreck.\u00a0 They cannot see how they are making themselves<\/strong><\/em> miserable with their victim thinking.\u00a0 It can be fixed, however!\u00a0 If you see victim thinking in your own life, get to work on it today before it grows into a life of misery!\u00a0 You CAN have a wonderful life, but it will not be accomplished by getting everyone else around you to act differently.\u00a0 Get with a counselor today to see where the seeds of victim thinking might be planted in your life.\u00a0 The freedom to love and be loved to the fullest extent awaits . . .<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Are you unknowingly ruining your life with victim thinking?\u00a0 A victim is someone who is on the receiving end of some kind of mistreatment.\u00a0 We all have this to a certain degree, but where do you stand?\u00a0 If you don\u2019t recognize this in yourself, it may be causing a lot of misery in your life! […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3657","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3657","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3657"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3657\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4284,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3657\/revisions\/4284"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3657"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3657"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3657"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}