{"id":3664,"date":"2013-08-10T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-08-10T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/what-lies-do-you-believe\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:54","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:54","slug":"what-lies-do-you-believe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/what-lies-do-you-believe\/","title":{"rendered":"The Lies We Believe"},"content":{"rendered":"

What are the lies you believe?\u00a0 I\u2019m not talking about the lies other <\/strong><\/em>people tell you, I\u2019m talking about the lies you <\/strong><\/em>tell you!\u00a0 Lies like . . . \u201cI\u2019m worthless.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m not good enough unless I\u2019m perfect.\u201d \u201cNo one will love me if I\u2019m fat.\u201d \u00a0 \u201cIf I make a mistake, I can never make up for it.\u201d or \u201cI am <\/strong><\/em>a mistake.\u201d<\/p>\n

I was challenged this week in a study I am working on to write down all of the beliefs I have about the world and the lies I tell myself to support them.\u00a0 Wow!\u00a0 Once I got going, I was amazed at how fast they were flowing!\u00a0 This is stuff that courses through my veins on a daily basis.\u00a0 Silent. Hidden. Deadly.\u00a0 And the more I wrote, the more horrified I became.\u00a0 By the end, I wanted them out of me. <\/strong>\u00a0Killed!\u00a0 Like I had just found out I had cancer and I wanted it killed aggressively and immediately!<\/p>\n

For example. . . Let\u2019s say you had a belief about the world that \u2018If someone is upset because of something you did, it is your fault.\u2019\u00a0 The supporting lies would be something like, \u201cI shouldn\u2019t have said that.\u201d \u201cI should have known that would hurt him.\u201d \u201cI\u2019ve always had a big mouth.\u201d \u201cI should just keep my stupid big mouth shut and the world would be a better place.\u201d Am I making my point?<\/p>\n

Honestly, if we want to have an easier ride on this planet, we just cannot do it if this river of sewage is running solidly through our minds on a daily basis!\u00a0 For most of us, however, it is! And worse yet?\u00a0 We don\u2019t even\u00a0 know it!\u00a0<\/strong> <\/em>Something happens and that belief (that we are unaware of) gets stirred inside of us.\u00a0 Then our minds start chanting the lies (below our consciousness) and before long, our negative belief is confirmed, and filed away with a wagon load of evidence to confirm it.\u00a0 In essence, if we allow ourselves to believe the lies, they are holding us back!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

The first step is awareness.\u00a0 We simply have to become aware of what is going on inside of us.\u00a0 We can\u2019t battle it if we don\u2019t even know we are at war!\u00a0 So what are some of your negative, pessimistic, secret cynical beliefs about the world?\u00a0 And what lies do you tell yourself to support them?\u00a0 Then look at each of those lies.\u00a0 What is a corresponding truth that you do<\/strong><\/em> believe??<\/p>\n

For example, as a woman, I grew up with the belief that our culture equates beauty with worth.\u00a0 (Belief about the world: \u201cIf you are pleasing to the eye, the world will accept you.\u00a0 If you are not, they won\u2019t.\u201d)\u00a0 As a woman, I am ashamed to admit that I have succumbed to the encyclopedia of lies that support this ridiculous belief like, \u201cIf I am having a bad hair day, people won\u2019t respect me.\u201d\u00a0 Quite frankly, it honks me off!\u00a0 Really?! My intelligence changes because my hair won\u2019t cooperate today?!\u00a0 But what really scare me is that it didn\u2019t<\/strong> honk me off, until I became aware that I was enslaved by it!\u00a0 \u00a0Once I realized it, I was determined to defy it!\u00a0 I have to tell you, though, it is a fight I have to have daily<\/strong><\/em>.\u00a0 My corresponding truth?\u00a0 The most beautiful women I know are not runway models.\u00a0 They are real women with real hearts, smiles, wit, and grit.\u00a0 I don\u2019t love them because of the way they look<\/strong><\/em>, I love them because of who they are<\/strong><\/em>!<\/p>\n

I have similar beliefs (and the lies that support them) that I battle on a daily basis.\u00a0 I am determined to go to war with each and every one of those buggers!\u00a0 They have held me down too long and I am ready to be free of them.\u00a0 What about you?\u00a0 What negative beliefs do you subscribe to?\u00a0 What lies to do you tell yourself to support them?\u00a0 And what lies do you believe?? Tackle them now.\u00a0 What\u2019s lying underneath is worth the fight!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

What are the lies you believe?\u00a0 I\u2019m not talking about the lies other people tell you, I\u2019m talking about the lies you tell you!\u00a0 Lies like . . . \u201cI\u2019m worthless.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m not good enough unless I\u2019m perfect.\u201d \u201cNo one will love me if I\u2019m fat.\u201d \u00a0 \u201cIf I make a mistake, I can never […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[1090,1091,871,816,1092,1093,1094,1095,985,1096],"class_list":["post-3664","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage","tag-fear-of-success","tag-lack-of-confidence","tag-lies","tag-low-self-esteem","tag-negative-thinking","tag-no-confidence","tag-no-good","tag-suicidal","tag-whats-holding-me-back","tag-worthless"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3664","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3664"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3664\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4290,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3664\/revisions\/4290"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3664"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3664"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3664"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}