{"id":3666,"date":"2013-10-06T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-10-06T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/marital-counseling-and-truth\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:55","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:55","slug":"marital-counseling-and-truth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/marital-counseling-and-truth\/","title":{"rendered":"Marital Counseling and Truth"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>The pattern of losing trust with people begins early in our lives, regardless of whether or not your childhood\u00a0was\u00a0a safe and loving one or one of trauma and abuse. The\u00a0breaking of trust begins when\u00a0we learn to mask our true beliefs and feelings early in life as we go to school, are criticized at home, or see others get criticized. Life experiences tell us what is safe and what is not, it is natural to be focused on survival.\u00a0\u00a0How conflict is handled in the relationship,\u00a0sets the tone for everyone in the relationship.\u00a0Feelings of fear, rejection, judgement, even love or hate, can be\u00a0triggered if conflict is too great or avoided.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>What is important is what is NOT being said.\u00a0What\u00a0APPEARS to be important is what people say in reactivity to one another. Either way, it isn\u2019t the truth of a person\u2019s internal pain or neediness. These are masks and defenses we have created in order to address whatever we are wanting to keep secret or private. If you are keeping your needs a secret, no one can reach out and offer what you need, because it is unknown. Therefore the cycle of neediness and emptiness continues among couples and families. If we lowered our defenses, we would reveal our true selves.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The pattern of losing trust with people begins early in our lives, regardless of whether or not your childhood\u00a0was\u00a0a safe and loving one or one of trauma and abuse. The\u00a0breaking of trust begins when\u00a0we learn to mask our true beliefs and feelings early in life as we go to school, are criticized at home, or [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[15,30,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3666","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-family-counseling","category-individual-therapy","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3666","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3666"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3666\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4292,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3666\/revisions\/4292"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3666"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3666"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3666"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}