{"id":3721,"date":"2014-05-04T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2014-05-04T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/do-you-know-your-little-girl\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:48:59","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:48:59","slug":"do-you-know-your-little-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/do-you-know-your-little-girl\/","title":{"rendered":"Do You Know Your “Little Girl”?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you know your little girl?\u00a0 I\u2019m not talking about your daughter, I\u2019m talking about the tender, <\/strong><\/em>sweet, vulnerable little girl that lives inside you as a woman. . .<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

For us to live a healthy and full life, we\u2019ve got to get in touch with that little girl, for she is the essence of our soul as a woman.\u00a0 This is where our essential needs are defined and if we don\u2019t know her or know how to get her needs met in a healthy way, we are in for trouble!\u00a0 We walk around in our adult bodies thinking we are mature and in control of ourselves, but if we aren\u2019t in touch with that little girl and her needs, in reality, we have no idea what\u2019s going to happen.\u00a0 I\u2019ve seen far too many women completely destroy their lives and their families because their unknown little girl took off running after something shiny!<\/p>\n

How do we prevent this?<\/p>\n

Get to Know Her \u2013<\/strong><\/em><\/span> What are her hopes? Dreams? Fears? Sensitivities?\u00a0 What makes her feel sad? Hurt? Confused?\u00a0 What makes her feel loved? Safe? Whole? What breaks her heart?\u00a0 What road is she tempted to go down when she is hurting or achingly empty?<\/p>\n

Let Her Play \u2013<\/strong><\/em><\/span> Play on swings.\u00a0 Buy something impractical.\u00a0 Dance.\u00a0 Sing.\u00a0 Jump.\u00a0 Do somersaults (literally or figuratively).\u00a0 Pet a puppy.\u00a0 Enjoy a breeze.\u00a0 Get her favorite coffee.\u00a0 Buy her flowers.\u00a0 Let her play and do it responsibly.\u00a0 It makes her feel alive and makes a dent in the desires of her heart!<\/p>\n

Let Her Cry \u2013<\/strong><\/em><\/span> All girls have a need to cry somewhere deep down inside (well, all people<\/strong><\/em>, really).\u00a0 We often don\u2019t allow ourselves to express it for a variety of reasons, but it is natural!\u00a0 If your little girl\u2019s heart hurts, then you need to let her release it.<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0 Find a safe place, give her permission and let it out – in whatever form it comes.\u00a0 Then be very tender and loving towards her the rest of the day.<\/p>\n

Let. Her. Feel. Every. Emotion! \u2013<\/strong><\/em><\/span> We were often stunted as children because our primitive, immature emotions were not always \u00a0convenient for our parents and they didn\u2019t understand it.\u00a0 So we have learned to live our lives so controlled that we can\u2019t get our needs met!\u00a0 Find a safe way for your little girl to release anger or pain.\u00a0 Allow yourself to feel silly or giddy.\u00a0 As you allow yourself to feel these emotions, you are learning about your soul!\u00a0<\/strong><\/em> By letting her feel every emotion that comes up, it reduces the inner tension and actually gives us more<\/strong> <\/em>control over ourselves.<\/p>\n

Re-Parent Her \u2013<\/strong><\/em><\/span> You are in charge of that precious little girl.\u00a0 Be good to her. Affirm her.\u00a0 Point out what\u2019s good in her.\u00a0 Let her play.\u00a0 Let her cry.\u00a0 Let her feel.\u00a0 And be responsible with her.\u00a0 Let her do it all in a safe and healthy way, not in ways that will lead to trouble.<\/p>\n

Start getting to know your little girl today.\u00a0 Buy her flowers.\u00a0 Make coffee in her favorite coffee mug.\u00a0 Begin to <\/strong>release her from the restraints she has been shackled by her whole life!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Do you know your little girl?\u00a0 I\u2019m not talking about your daughter, I\u2019m talking about the tender, sweet, vulnerable little girl that lives inside you as a woman. . . For us to live a healthy and full life, we\u2019ve got to get in touch with that little girl, for she is the essence of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[1079,445,465,681,402,424,396,1051,1250,429,1251,599,420,430,1252,1243,1253],"class_list":["post-3721","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage","tag-acoa","tag-addiction","tag-anger","tag-borderline-personality-disorder","tag-codependency","tag-counseling","tag-divorce","tag-healthy","tag-little-girl","tag-marriage","tag-promiscuity","tag-rage","tag-recovery","tag-relationships","tag-uncontrollable","tag-unhealthy","tag-whole"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3721","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3721"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3721\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4347,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3721\/revisions\/4347"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3721"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3721"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3721"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}