{"id":3907,"date":"2015-07-22T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-07-22T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/yes-or-no\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:49:11","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:49:11","slug":"yes-or-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/yes-or-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Yes, or No?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I ran across a really good quote today that spoke to me. \u00a0Louie Giglio said “Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. \u00a0Make sure your yes is worth the less.” \u00a0In today’s culture of go, go, go and don’t let any grass grow under your feet, and more is better…this is an excellent reminder of what it means to say yes too often.<\/p>\n

\"breneDr. Brene Brown, LCSW, is a professor and researcher at the University of Houston. \u00a0She has written several books now, particularly on shame and her extensive research on the subject. \u00a0She gave a talk once that really stuck with me. \u00a0She was talking about codependency and how codependents tend to say yes to too many things at once. \u00a0She said one of the things she learned was to pause before answering with a “yes” to a request. \u00a0She described a ring she wears that is able to spin on her finger. \u00a0Before she responds to a request, she spins the ring on her finger three times, and then answers. \u00a0This gives her time to think about whether or not she really wants to say yes, and consider the things she will have to give up if she does.<\/p>\n

I had to learn this lesson in graduate school BIG TIME. \u00a0As a single mom and with all the plates I had spinning in the air during that time, I had to say no much more often than I would have liked. \u00a0I just didn’t have a choice. \u00a0I was already sleeping very little to get all my work and homework all done, and I would NOT sacrifice time playing basketball with my kids on the driveway and regret playing with them during these precious years of their childhood. \u00a0I made time for the most important things, but many other things I cared about suffered. \u00a0The most significant of these was relationships with some friends and acquaintences. \u00a0I just didn’t have enough time for everyone or everything that I cared about. \u00a0I nurtured a few of my most cherished friendships as much as possible, but other relationships suffered.<\/p>\n

\"yes-no-sign-2\"So as I came across this quote today, it reminded me of what happens when I say yes too much, and what happens when I don’t say yes enough. \u00a0I hope this message gives you pause today, to just ponder what\/who it is that is the most important to you, and say no to things that are less important and yes to those that are dear in your heart. \u00a0I also personally want to make sure that I leave times in my schedule that are un-scheduled, to allow time for relationships to just…happen. \u00a0Blessings on your day!<\/p>\n

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\u00a9 2015 Nancy Eisenman, MSW, LSW<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I ran across a really good quote today that spoke to me. \u00a0Louie Giglio said “Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. \u00a0Make sure your yes is worth the less.” \u00a0In today’s culture of go, go, go and don’t let any grass grow under your feet, and more […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[24,17,1],"tags":[488,565,874,912,468,402,469,424,471,474,396,476,1392,1393,407,1716,500,429,447,420,482,430,485,486,1717],"class_list":["post-3907","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-codependent","category-relationships","category-uncategorized","tag-being-healthy-in-a-relationship","tag-boundaries","tag-brene-brown","tag-carmel-marriage-counseling","tag-co-dependency","tag-codependency","tag-communication-issues","tag-counseling","tag-couples-counseling","tag-disconnect","tag-divorce","tag-emotional-issues","tag-healing-hearts-of-indy","tag-healing-hearts-of-indy-counseling","tag-indianapolis-marriage-counseling","tag-louie-giglio","tag-marital-conflict","tag-marriage","tag-marriage-counseling","tag-recovery","tag-relationship-issues","tag-relationships","tag-therapy","tag-trust","tag-university-of-houston"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3907"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3907"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3907\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4508,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3907\/revisions\/4508"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3907"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3907"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3907"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}