{"id":3942,"date":"2016-03-23T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-03-23T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/10-signs-abandonment-issues\/"},"modified":"2020-05-11T20:49:14","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T20:49:14","slug":"10-signs-abandonment-issues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/10-signs-abandonment-issues\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Signs You Have Abandonment Issues"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" size-medium wp-image-12604 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/Do-I-Have-abandonment-300x127-1.png\" alt=\"Do I Have abandonment\" width=\"300\" height=\"127\" \/>Abandonment issues? Wondering for sure if you have them\u00a0or not?\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to have been left in a basket on a church doorstep in order to have abandonment issues.\u00a0 I myself didn\u2019t even know I had abandonment until I was 35 years old, but when I learned more about it, you\u2019d better believe I had the signs all along!\u00a0 Here are 10 signs you might have abandonment. . .<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Calling or texting repeatedly when you don\u2019t know where your loved one is.<\/li>\n<li>Constantly watching the door when you are waiting on someone to arrive.<\/li>\n<li>You don\u2019t like surprises such as last minute changes in plans or finding out someone knew about something before you did.<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-12605\" src=\"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/abandonment-Issues.jpg\" alt=\"Abandonment Issues\" width=\"200\" height=\"300\" \/><\/li>\n<li>Visualizing what it would be like if you lost a loved one and what you would do.<\/li>\n<li>You have a terrifying fear of\u00a0losing a loved one to death, divorce, etc.<\/li>\n<li>Feeling threatened if someone else is close with your loved ones.<\/li>\n<li>Feeling a huge sense of sadness or anxiety\u00a0when your loved one is gone, busy, or otherwise distanced from you (i.e., mad at you).<\/li>\n<li>You consistently pick physically or emotionally unavailable partners (i.e., cheating, addicted, abusive, very self-focused, etc.)<\/li>\n<li>You over-react to situations and later don\u2019t understand why you \u2018flipped out\u2019.<\/li>\n<li>You have moments in your reactivity that you don\u2019t recall very well afterwards.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Abandonment is no joke.\u00a0 If you have it and it is not under control, your life can be hijacked in an instant by someone else\u2019s actions.\u00a0 It makes people feel like they are crazy or even psychotic in their reactions to anything that feels like the original abandoning circumstances.\u00a0 It is easy to look at the situation afterwards and say you shouldn\u2019t have reacted that way, but in the moment, you feel like you had absolutely no control.<\/p>\n<p>Abandonment can come from being shamed (directly or indirectly), by having emotionally distant parents\u00a0or siblings that excluded you, being bullied in school, moving around a lot as a kid, being physically, verbally, emotionally, or sexually abused or other trauma that you experienced early in life.\u00a0 <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"  wp-image-12603 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/fear-of-abadonment-300x180-1.jpg\" alt=\"fear of abadonment\" width=\"240\" height=\"144\" \/>The net result is that even decades after the original\u00a0traumatizing events, we are still coping with the anxiety of it all!\u00a0 Unfortunately, most of us learned undesirable behaviors that only provide us momentary relief from our anxiety, but we have really only been\u00a0treating the symptoms.<\/p>\n<p>If you recognize that you have abandonment and you want to begin dealing with it at the source instead of ineffectively managing the symptoms, we can help. \u00a0You CAN free yourself from the pain, the anxiety, the helplessness, the hopelessness, and finally get the love that you have been desperately seeking! \u00a0I won\u2019t tell you that it is a fun journey, but I will promise you that the results are worth the effort!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Abandonment issues? Wondering for sure if you have them\u00a0or not?\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to have been left in a basket on a church doorstep in order to have abandonment issues.\u00a0 I myself didn\u2019t even know I had abandonment until I was 35 years old, but when I learned more about it, you\u2019d better believe I [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[19,20,21,22,23,16,29,37,1],"tags":[394,569,1826,466,576,396,1827,1478,1828,1242,447,1829,605,599,501,464,420,1830,713,1831],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3942"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3942"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3942\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4540,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3942\/revisions\/4540"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3942"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3942"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3942"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}