Humility is just absolutely essential for good healthy relationships. It brings us closer, connects us on a deep emotional level, and transcends our relationships to new heights. It doesn\u2019t cost a thing, but requires growth and maturity to carry out. And man, if you can master it, it\u2019s actually kinda sexy!<\/p>\n
Imagine these two responses to this scenario:<\/strong> Response A is a prideful response, Response B is a humble response. Wouldn\u2019t we all like to have the humble response be the first thing that comes out of our mouths? It\u2019s a difficult thing to change when your first instinct is to snap back at someone!<\/p>\n Here\u2019s the thing:<\/strong> Approaching ANY situation with an \u201cI could be wrong, you could be right . . . let\u2019s talk about it\u201d attitude is going to be MUCH more productive than the prideful \u201cI\u2019m right, you\u2019re wrong\u201d perspective. And which kind of person do you want to approach? For that matter, which kind of person do you want to BE?<\/p>\n So if you recognize that you are a Response A person (prideful), how can you change to more humble responses? The first step is what you are doing right now \u2013 reading about it and becoming aware of your own behavior. In order to begin changing your behavior, you must first be aware of what you are doing and make a conscious decision to make a change. I don\u2019t know about you, but I don\u2019t want to be that person \u2013 the one who can\u2019t hear that I\u2019ve hurt someone. Once we become aware of our prideful reactions and make the decision to change, we begin the slow process of change. At first you won\u2019t necessarily be able to catch yourself before you react. When it comes to your attention (by your own awareness or when someone brings it to your attention), it is not too late! Show humility as soon as you possibly can, practice owning your not-so-stellar behavior and apologize for it. \u201cOh my gosh. You\u2019re right, I was reactive and I\u2019m sorry I spoke to you that way.\u201d After you do this enough times, you\u2019ll begin to catch yourself as it is happening and eventually, you will be able to respond humbly in the moment.<\/p>\n A word of caution:<\/strong> Humility is just absolutely essential for good healthy relationships. It brings us closer, connects us on a deep emotional level, and transcends our relationships to new heights. It doesn\u2019t cost a thing, but requires growth and maturity to carry out. And man, if you can master it, it\u2019s actually kinda sexy! Imagine these two responses […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4002","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4002","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4002"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4002\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4595,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4002\/revisions\/4595"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4002"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4002"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healingheartsofindy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4002"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nA husband says to his wife, \u201cIt didn\u2019t feel good earlier when you snapped at me in front of the kids.\u201d<\/p>\n\n
\nYou can keep responding in a prideful way that comes more naturally, but it comes at a price. People will want to pull away from you. Learning to respond in a more humble way will actually draw people towards you and create a ripe environment for intimacy. You will appear safer, more open, and people will respect you more. Think about it, which person do you feel more like spending time with: a person who is angry, sharp, or cutting? Or a person who is relaxed and open to dialogue? . Pridefulness usually makes people want to pull away, humbleness makes people want to draw towards you. That\u2019s why I call it sexy, because when your spouse sees it, it makes them want to come nearer to you and that\u2019s what we all want, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n
\nI do want to encourage you to be sincere in owning your behavior and apologizing. Doing so with a mocking, sarcastic, or monotone will not help you to connect with your spouse or change your behavior. If you\u2019re not ready to be humble, then you can even say that to your spouse. The true change happens in your heart. When you fully understand that being humble is not a sign of weakness, but actually a sign of strength, you\u2019ll see people responding differently towards you and you\u2019ll begin to see how sexy humility can be!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"