He Didn’t Know Her
By: Javan
May 10, 2012


Minimalist gray line drawing of a hand holding a heart shape.

Inspiration is everywhere in the work of a therapist. There is a fairamount ofrelationship pain thatwalks into my office. Manywish to have love, acceptance, and belonging….for theauthentic self to be revealed, accepted, and loved. Not by whata person does or accomplishes……but to be truly loved.A dearfriend of minetaughtme this about intimacy: “It’shaving theability tosing the song of your beloved’s heart back tothem.” The need to be loved withunconditional regard is natural and normal.

A poem for you……by the way, learn to sing the song of your heart to yourself, no matter what!

Minimalist gray line drawing of a hand holding a heart shape.

He didn’t get to know Me

The girl who needs to know you know

The girl who sways in the wind

Listening to her favorite songs

Dreaming about you

He didn’t get to know Me

The girl who needs to feel you know

The girl who dances to her music, Singing her favorite songs

A slow, steady bluesy mix, a rough female vocalist

Dreaming about you

He didn’t get to know Me

The girl who needs to know you know

The girl who looks in the mirror

Playing with her hair, twirling her locks

Imagining he will love all of her

Dreaming about you

He didn’t get to know Me

The girl who needs to know you know

That She doesn’t want to be that girl

The girl who knows she’s been living a half-life

The girl who knows you know

That she needs you, your real love

Her heart flutters

When her songs play

When her friends sit with her

When she loves him

The music dances on her heart

Singing, She looks for you, She doesn’t see you

She needs you where She Is

And She knows He knows….

Minimalist gray line drawing of a hand holding a heart shape.

She needs him to know

She is Free

When She knows He knows Her heart

When He can sing Her Heart Back to Her