Do you ever wonder "Am I being manipulated?" To manipulate, by definition, means to change by artful or unfair means so as to serve one’s advantage. This behavior can often be...
by KANDICE MORALES | Nov 3, 2022
In the Gottman Theory, John and Julie Gottman use an analogy to describe when a marriage could be on the brink of destruction called the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:...
by KANDICE MORALES | Aug 8, 2022
Do you sometimes get the feeling that your partner is not listening or understanding what you’re trying to say? Are there moments where you leave an argument feeling confused,...
by Kathy | Apr 29, 2020
Rewriting history is when someone recounts certain events, but they spin or twist the facts around usually so that they are the victim of the story instead of having any fault in...
by Javan | Jan 30, 2020
Blame Is Ugly The Blame Game is a trap to keep you in a lower position in life. Blaming says, “there’s nothing I can do about how I feel or respond to this scenario. I have no...
Is Criticism Effective In Creating Change?
by Javan | Jan 7, 2020
There is a lot of talk about "constructive" criticism, but is it really effective in creating change? Julie and John Gottman, couples’ therapists and researchers, suggest...
Applying the Love Languages
by Morgan | Jan 1, 2020
Most clients I have met have heard of The Five Love Languages (by Dr. Gary Chapman), and many even know their own preferences. That being said, some struggle to apply this...
How To Use Your “Wise Mind”
by Morgan | Dec 25, 2019
The human brain has two sides, each of which has an important function. Depending on one’s personality and extenuating circumstances, one side may become more active than the...
The Power of Saying What We NEED
by Chelsea | Sep 8, 2019
What you need The power of saying what we need in a relationship is absolutely vital to it's success. Have you ever had a really bad day? A day where it seemed like nothing went...
Hailstorm vs. Turtle
by Karen | Jun 25, 2019
The Hailstorm vs. Turtle is an analogy created by Harville Hendrix to explain some of the very different ways a couple can behave and react within a relationship. Considering all...
by Karen | May 13, 2019
Welcome to Boundaries 101! Boundaries are a popular and sometimes confusing topic of discussion surrounding relationships. What is a boundary? How do we set healthy boundaries?...
Are You Addicted To Your Smart Phone?
by Danielle | Feb 1, 2019
Are you addicted to your smart phone? How do we wrestle with the VERY real connection we have with our cellphones? For a weekend, I tried “breaking up” with my phone, after...
by Jasleen | Feb 6, 2018
Defensiveness: When individuals feel attacked or misunderstood they often act out in ways to protect themselves. Many individuals get defensive when they are feeling...
The Biggest Problems With Communication
by Kathy | Oct 31, 2017
“The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” Wow! Did George Bernard Shaw really hit the nail on the head with this quote! Couples...
What do you mean by that?
by Danielle | Oct 17, 2017
Have you ever been in a conversation where someone smiled, acted polite, and used all of the politically correct phrasing… but something just felt off? Or have you ever said yes...
Cruelty Masked As Honesty
by Danielle | May 15, 2017
Has this ever happened to you? Someone offered “helpful advice” that felt like an insult? An employer gives you a performance evaluation, but you left feeling like they want you...
The Pain Of Projection
by Kathy | Dec 14, 2016
I recently got a vivid reminder of the power - and pain - of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe...
by Nancy | Jun 20, 2016
Wow, do we live in a culture that loves it some instant gratification, am I right? I’m reminded of a video I saw once where a gal was going around asking random people on the...
“It’s Going to be OK”
by Nancy | Jun 9, 2016
I had a client the other day remind me of something that illustrates a great point about being a good friend…particularly being a good friend when your friend is in pain for some...
Anger and Healthy Boundaries
by Javan | Jan 26, 2016
Have you felt strongly about something when you're really irritated, but then forget about that same thing like it was no big deal? Or have a bad thing happen that put you in a...