If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is like being on a roller coaster. The highs can be high but the lows can be very low. The up and down nature of the...
A Matter of Perspective
by imavexadmin | Feb 21, 2018
Lately, the phrase "first world problems" has been buzzing around. One minute, our problems can seem so huge and life-changing and the next, after some perspective, the same...
by Jasleen | Feb 6, 2018
Defensiveness: When individuals feel attacked or misunderstood they often act out in ways to protect themselves. Many individuals get defensive when they are feeling...
Letting Go of Resentment.
by Christy Aloisio | Mar 20, 2017
What is one issue that has been a common theme that hurts and even destroys relationships? I would define it as a marriage killer. The issue is resentment. Even working a lot...
Are You Holding Yourself Back?
by imavexadmin | May 31, 2016
What’s holding you back? What keeps you from losing weight? Getting the job of your dreams? Quitting smoking or drinking? Saving money? Improving your life or your...
The Blame Game
by imavexadmin | Apr 25, 2016
All blame is a waste of time. How can I say that, do you suppose? I mean, come on...there are times when people deserve to get blamed. There IS such a thing as "fault" after...
The Pain Of Codependence
by Javan | Apr 25, 2016
If you have codependence, you know it can be painful. But WHY? Where does the pain come from and how can we make it stop? In my opinion, the deepest pain of codependence comes...
The Seven Year *itch
by Nancy | Apr 10, 2016
If you can pardon the somewhat vulgar insinuation, I promise I have a point to my choice for the title of this blog. I just brewed up some Wild Mountain Blueberry coffee and am...
10 Signs You Have Abandonment Issues
by Kathy | Mar 23, 2016
Abandonment issues? Wondering for sure if you have them or not? You don’t have to have been left in a basket on a church doorstep in order to have abandonment issues. I myself...
Insulation vs. Isolation
by Nancy | Mar 21, 2016
By request...today we are going to talk about a way of thinking, a paradigm that will help navigate the waters of relationship with folks that may not always be all that safe....
The Illusion of Control
by Nancy | Mar 7, 2016
Control is a really common topic in my office. One very simplistic definition of anxiety is "an over-focus on things that may or may not happen," in other words...thinking too...
Marital Love: Conditional or Unconditional?
by Nancy | Feb 26, 2016
When we think about marital love, we think about commitment and wanting that union to go the distance. We want to think and believe that our love when we're married will never...
Guilt vs. Shame
by Nancy | Feb 3, 2016
While it may seem that these words are synonyms, there is a difference between guilt and shame. A very important difference, actually. I just made myself some wild mountain...
What Is Your Anger Pointing To?
by Kathy | Jan 31, 2016
What is your anger pointing to? This is such a difficult, but oh so important question because most of us think we know the answer. And when we “ know” the answer, we naturally...
Why Do You NEED To Win The Argument?
by Kathy | Jan 19, 2016
Why do some arguments never end? Why do you need to win? Why do you just have to get the other person to see it your way? These are the very things that keep many couples...
Choosing Your People
by Karen | Jan 17, 2016
It is a bright moment in a person's life when the realization comes that there are choices in relationships and the form, substance and significance of those relationships. We...
by Nancy | Jan 3, 2016
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~Theodore Roosevelt Do you remember the game “Roshambo”? You might know it better as “Rock, Paper, Scissors.” Did you play this game as a kid?...
A True Test Of Character
by Kathy | Dec 9, 2015
Want a true test of your character? Try answering these questions . . . Does your spouse respect you? Do people view you as humble? Do your co-workers trust you to do the...
by Nancy | Nov 28, 2015
Is there such a thing as constructive criticism? I was listening to a training by John and Julie Gottman, a couple of the most well-respected couples therapists and researchers,...
Is Your Pain Too Much?
by Kathy | Nov 3, 2015
Is your pain too great? Who gets to say if it’s too big, too small, or just right? When trauma strikes, make no mistake, you will feel the pain of it. You may sense that you...