Category: Marriage
Applying the Love Languages

Applying the Love Languages

Most clients I have met have heard of The Five Love Languages (by Dr. Gary Chapman), and many even know their own preferences. That being said, some struggle to apply this...

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Keys To Enhancing Your Sex Life

Keys To Enhancing Your Sex Life

There are several keys to enhancing your sex life.  Whenever I approach the topic of sex with my clients I either get people who are excited to finally have the opportunity to...

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5 Myths About Marriage

5 Myths About Marriage

We all have expectations of what marriage should be like. The more closely our expectations and reality match the more satisfied we tend to be in life. However, the more...

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The #1 Marriage Killer

What if research found that one trait in particular was the number one marriage killer? Would you do anything to ensure that it didn’t ruin yours? Or would you continue to let it...

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The Pain Of Projection

The Pain Of Projection

I recently got a vivid reminder of the power - and pain - of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe...

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The Cure For Loneliness

There are lots of times when clients come in to my office and talk about feeling lonely. They may even be married and have lots of friends, and still they say that they are...

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“It’s Going to be OK”

I had a client the other day remind me of something that illustrates a great point about being a good friend…particularly being a good friend when your friend is in pain for some...

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The Seven Year *itch

If you can pardon the somewhat vulgar insinuation, I promise I have a point to my choice for the title of this blog.  I just brewed up some Wild Mountain Blueberry coffee and am...

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Why Can’t You Just Love Me?

Love and connection...that's what clients want that come in for marriage counseling. The multiple divorces and remarriages are evidence of the lack of love people feel in...

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What Is Your Anger Pointing To?

What is your anger pointing to?  This is such a difficult, but oh so important question because most of us think we know the answer. And when we “ know” the answer, we naturally...

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Why Do You NEED To Win The Argument?

Why do some arguments never end?  Why do you need to win?  Why do you just have to get the other person to see it your way?  These are the very things that keep many couples...

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Boundary vs. Ultimatum

I cannot tell you how many times I have helped folks who have difficulties having boundaries to develop better ones, only to have their spouses get super reactive to those new...

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