Wishing there was a Co-Parenting Rulebook? Parenting alone is hard enough, but parents who are no longer together can opt to continue to work together in order to best serve the needs of their children. Choosing to co-parent after the close of an intimate relationship can be challenging, however, the… [Read More]
Rethinking Anger Management
RETHINKING ANGER MANAGEMENT One of the most common calls we receive at Healing Hearts revolves around anger management. During a first meeting with a client who has anger issues, I often explain anger management is not needed. Rather, we need to work on anger understanding and rage management. Anger Is… [Read More]
Keys To Enhancing Your Sex Life
There are several keys to enhancing your sex life. Whenever I approach the topic of sex with my clients I either get people who are excited to finally have the opportunity to talk about their sex lives or people who are extremely uncomfortable with the topic altogether. One of the… [Read More]
Are You Suffering From Caregiver Burnout?
Are you suffering from caregiver burnout? Exhausted? Spent? Not working with the same compassionate heart that got you into the profession you’re in? You may be suffering from caregiver burnout, and you’re not alone. Caregiver burnout is a real thing but rest assured, you can turn it around, if you… [Read More]
Is Success A Moving Target (Part II)
Does success feel like a moving target? In Part 1 we explored the idea that when success feels out of reach, we begin to tell ourselves a story that sounds similar to: I’m not enough I’m not doing enough Everyone has it figured out but me This icky, “I’m not… [Read More]
Guilt? Ok Shame? No Way!
GUILT? OK SHAME? NO WAY Allowing guilt to manifest in shame is a harmful process that occurs way too often. Guilt is healthy. Shame is unhealthy. But I am far ahead of myself, let’s start at the beginning. Guilt and shame are often thought of as interchangeable. They are even… [Read More]
A Matter of Perspective
Lately, the phrase “first world problems” has been buzzing around. One minute, our problems can seem so huge and life-changing and the next, after some perspective, the same problem can seem more manageable. It’s interesting how that happens, isn’t it? Worry, anxiety, and depression can cause our problems to… [Read More]
Overcoming Defensiveness
Defensiveness: When individuals feel attacked or misunderstood they often act out in ways to protect themselves. Many individuals get defensive when they are feeling criticized or blamed. When we get defensive we essentially take that blame and put it on the other person. A Better Understanding of Defensiveness: I… [Read More]
Is Success A Moving Target? (Part I)
How do we know what success looks like? What does it feel like? Is success something tangible (money), or a state of being (happiness)? For me, success can sometimes feel like trying to hit a moving target at a carnival game. It’s loud, it’s stressful, and it seems to be laughing… [Read More]
Why the Fantasy of Marriage is Killing Our Relationships
We hear it all the time, right? Two become one. Now that you are married you are supposed to share everything and this other person is supposed to be your everything. They are going to keep you happy, meet all of your needs, make you feel good about yourself, and… [Read More]
