This time of year can be hard—the holiday season brings varied reactions and some very mixed feelings for a lot of people. Wintertime is tough: it’s gray, it’s cold; it begins to feel smarter to hibernate until Spring. Here are some tips for beating the winter blues! First Things… [Read More]
Living In Reactivity
Have you ever been in a relationship living in reactivity, feeling like a screech owl? Some people believe no one can ‘make’ us feel anything. They believe it is all up to us. However, it takes work to understand what triggers our emotional reactions. Before we do that work it… [Read More]
Is Criticism Effective In Creating Change?
There is a lot of talk about “constructive” criticism, but is it really effective in creating change? Julie and John Gottman, couples’ therapists and researchers, suggest that there really is no such thing as constructive criticism. As common as it is for bosses, family, spouses, friends, etc., to offer constructive criticism,… [Read More]
Applying the Love Languages
Most clients I have met have heard of The Five Love Languages (by Dr. Gary Chapman), and many even know their own preferences. That being said, some struggle to apply this knowledge in day to day life. It is common for us to tend toward caring for others in the… [Read More]
How To Use Your “Wise Mind”
The human brain has two sides, each of which has an important function. Depending on one’s personality and extenuating circumstances, one side may become more active than the other. Learning how to use your “wise mind” can be a lifesaver in having healthy, stable relationships that thrive instead of just… [Read More]
Taming The Abandonment Beast
If you have abandonment, you know there is quite an art to taming the abandonment beast. It is a force to be reckoned with, for sure, and needs to be tamed in order to have a happy, healthy, and stable life. Where Abandonment Comes From Abandonment doesn’t have… [Read More]
Surviving the Holidays
The holidays are supposed to be a joyous time with friends and family but sometimes we might need a little help surviving the holidays. Unfortunately, the holidays don’t always bring that nostalgic and warm feeling to some people and your life is not like a Hallmark movie. You are supposed… [Read More]
Co-Parenting With The Enemy
Ever feel like you are co-parenting with the enemy? One of the most difficult parts of divorce is learning how to share custody. The dissolution of any type of relationship is hard, but navigating through custody makes it even more of a challenge. Instead of being with your child/children all… [Read More]
A Busy Person’s Guide To Self-Care
Never a good time “I’m too busy”, “there isn’t enough time in the day”, and “I feel guilty”, are just some of the reasons people give me when I ask them why they aren’t doing anything for themselves on a daily basis. I’m a huge proponent of self-care and stress… [Read More]
Where Is Your Anger Coming From?
Where is your anger coming from? Is everyone mean? Or are we just sleepy, thirsty, or hungry? I recently had a session with a couple that wanted to work on communication in their marriage. They were overworked, exhausted, and said they wanted strategies to better understand each other and more effectively… [Read More]
