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Maybe you have heard of codependent or counterdependent before, but you don’t think that resonates with you. When you think of codependent, you may think of someone who can’t do life alone and needs to ...

What do we mean by "Choose Your Hard?"  Every day we are given choices.  Some choices might be a little more complicated than others, but it will still have an effect on your day. Even ...

Did you just start a relationship or do you find yourself glancing at the new diamond on your hand? Or maybe you just celebrated your 5th year anniversary. What an exciting time in your life ...

Wondering about overcoming imposter syndrome?  Do you ever feel like you do not belong at your job? Or that you have no idea what you are doing and you are just waiting that at any ...

Trust is the single most imperative quality to have in a relationship. Without trust, you are unable to build a solid foundation. It’s similar to building a house on a sandy shoreline, it’s difficult to ...

Do you ever wonder "Am I being manipulated?"  To manipulate, by definition, means to change by artful or unfair means so as to serve one’s advantage. This behavior can often be difficult to spot, especially ...

At the beginning of the year, it has become a tradition to set New Year Resolutions: New Year, New You! The main ones typically are to lose weight, quit smoking, travel, or achieve a goal ...

When working with clients, one of the first things I look for in our initial session is to see if they are lacking emotional intimacy. Half of the couples will open up about their emotional ...

“I really don’t know if I want to be in this relationship anymore. I just want to know that we tried everything we could.” I hear different versions of this statement from a new client ...

We all have lost someone in our lives. Some closer to us than others. No matter if it was foreseen or unexpected, the impact a death has on us makes us pivot a bit in ...

When couples come to me to work on their relationship, 9 out of 10 times sex is the last topic they bring up. We go through their struggles on communication, not feeling heard, not being ...

We each have a level of both secure attachment and insecure attachment within us. Our attachment styles are formed by early experience and the way we are affected by our bonds with caregivers. The main ...

Do you feel like you are in a roommate marriage?  Wishing for the times when you were constantly thinking about that special person - while you were at work, classes, completing the chores of the ...

In the Gottman Theory, John and Julie Gottman use an analogy to describe when a marriage could be on the brink of destruction called the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.  ...