“I really don’t know if I want to be in this relationship anymore. I just want to know that we tried everything we could.” I hear different versions of this statement from a new...
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Attachment Styles
We each have a level of both secure attachment and insecure attachment within us. Our attachment styles are formed by early experience and the way we are affected by our bonds...
How To Deal With A Manipulator
Most people have been in contact with an individual who knows how to turn the concerning situation that you have brought to them, onto you. Now you are the person in the wrong,...
Communication
Do you sometimes get the feeling that your partner is not listening or understanding what you’re trying to say? Are there moments where you leave an argument feeling confused,...
Qualities that Facilitate Change
In the midst of a huge movement in our country, many are unsure of how to help, what to do, or how to process. Each of us has a unique skillset and ability to make a difference...
5 Ways to Focus on Recovery During Quarantine
If your recovery from alcohol, sex, food, or drug addiction has suffered from being in quarantine, here are 5 way to focus on recovery during quarantine. Know that you are not...
5 Reasons To Go To Therapy
Have you been thinking about going to see a therapist, but there has been something holding you back? You find yourself making excuses on finances, not having the time, or...
Is It Too Late For Marriage Counseling?
Someone asked me recently if, by the time a couple seeks marriage counseling, is it already too late? Excellent question! Let me make 2 points in answering this question . . ....
The Pain Of Projection
I recently got a vivid reminder of the power - and pain - of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe...
Sometimes Intimacy Hurts
Today I would like to discuss one of the finer points of intimacy. There is a mis-conception I’d like to take a swing at clearing up, about what intimacy actually is and how to...
The Cure For Loneliness
There are lots of times when clients come in to my office and talk about feeling lonely. They may even be married and have lots of friends, and still they say that they are...
The Seven Year *itch
If you can pardon the somewhat vulgar insinuation, I promise I have a point to my choice for the title of this blog. I just brewed up some Wild Mountain Blueberry coffee and am...
Toxic Relationships
Toxic relationships can include family, friends, co-workers, intimate partners, spouses, just about anyone. Even an acquaintance. Though toxic relationships tend to seem okay on...
Marital Love: Conditional or Unconditional?
When we think about marital love, we think about commitment and wanting that union to go the distance. We want to think and believe that our love when we're married will never...
Why You Should Be Thankful for Your Marital Crisis
I hope I did not lose too many readers after reading the title. Trust me; I know if you are in marital crisis at the moment, there is no part of you that is “thankful.” The pain...
Why Can’t You Just Love Me?
Love and connection...that's what clients want that come in for marriage counseling. The multiple divorces and remarriages are evidence of the lack of love people feel in...
What Is Your Anger Pointing To?
What is your anger pointing to? This is such a difficult, but oh so important question because most of us think we know the answer. And when we “ know” the answer, we naturally...
Giving and Recieving Love
Allow others to love you! Do you know how to love yourself and others? Your family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, strangers, neighbors? Do you know how to let others love...
Say What You Mean
Communication. It sounds simple and easy enough. More often than not, we don't say what we mean. And most of the time, we don't express what we feel. If you feel you're...
Enabling Others
Do you feel emotionally drained? Are you physically drained? Are you surrounded by people who need you? Do you find yourself thinking about other people’s problems? Is it hard to...
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