OK, let’s wrap this thing up. There is a language barrier between turtles and hailstorms. Turtles more fluently speak the language of logic, hailstorms more fluently speak the language of feelings. One is not better or worse than the other, they are just different.Turtles and hailstorms can both speak English,… [Read More]
Turtles vs. Hailstorms – Part 2
Characteristics of Hailstorms Last time we talked about turtles, so this time we’re discussing hailstorms. You know, those folks that love to talk deeply about emotions, feel an entire range of feelings, and they aren’t scared a bit by them. They can be dramatic, and deeply intimate, and loud, and… [Read More]
Turtles vs. Hailstorms – Part 1
I’m going to do a little three-part segment on an analogy that I learned a long time ago in a therapist training with Harville Hendrix, the author and creator of Imago Relationship Therapy. It is the analogy of the Turtle and the Hailstorm, and how they get into relationships with… [Read More]
Insulation vs. Isolation
By request…today we are going to talk about a way of thinking, a paradigm that will help navigate the waters of relationship with folks that may not always be all that safe. This is a common question I have from clients that are working so hard to develop good boundaries… [Read More]
Play Like A Champion Today
Remember that good ole Notre Dame Fighting Irish banner? There has been a theme in my office this week. Odd how that happens, but it seems to pretty often, and when it does, I take it as the nod to blog about it. So this week’s topic is about motivation:… [Read More]
A True Test Of Character
Want a true test of your character? Try answering these questions . . . Does your spouse respect you? Do people view you as humble? Do your co-workers trust you to do the right thing? Do your children feel safe talking with you? Can the people around you depend on… [Read More]
3 Parts of You
Do you know the different parts of yourself? Most of us are only vaguely aware of the 3 different parts that I like to talk about in counseling: The Adult, The Little Boy/Girl, and The Angry Teenager. If you want to have a healthy life, you’ll want to become intimately… [Read More]
Are Your Emotions Unstable?
Do your emotions sometimes feel unstable? Do you find yourself doing things you thought or promised you wouldn’t do? Does your partner? You may be experiencing what I call the codependent/counterdependent flip. Here’s how to recognize it and how to stabilize it! Codependent is being needy and dependent upon your… [Read More]
