Are you letting your emotions control you instead of the other way around? Maybe you get angry and lash out with insults and criticisms you regret later. Or, maybe you feel like everything is spiraling out of control and are instantly in the midst of a highly anxious and panicked… [Read More]
What Should I Bring to Therapy?
Starting counseling can be pretty intimidating. I think it can be even more intimidating to come with your spouse. I definitely empathize with my clients on this and try to make the first few sessions as comfortable as possible. So if you have at all been considering counseling, here are… [Read More]
Change
It’s normal to feel frustrated, stuck in a pattern, or unhappy with life circumstances. It’s also normal to know what causes frustration, irritation, and disappointment. The challenging aspects of being in a relationship affect everyone. The hardest part isn’t knowing what’s wrong. The greatest challenge is knowing how to change even… [Read More]
The Best Counselor Your Kids Will Ever Have
Want to know who is the best counselor your kids will ever have? Surprisingly, they may not have any formal training, experience, or even a degree! I always tell my clients “The best counselor their kids will ever have is you”, however, there is a catch! What I mean by… [Read More]
The Blame Game
All blame is a waste of time. How can I say that, do you suppose? I mean, come on…there are times when people deserve to get blamed. There IS such a thing as “fault” after all, right? People make mistakes, and there are consequences, and it actually IS someone’s fault…. [Read More]
Insulation vs. Isolation
By request…today we are going to talk about a way of thinking, a paradigm that will help navigate the waters of relationship with folks that may not always be all that safe. This is a common question I have from clients that are working so hard to develop good boundaries… [Read More]
Toxic Relationships
Toxic relationships can include family, friends, co-workers, intimate partners, spouses, just about anyone. Even an acquaintance. Though toxic relationships tend to seem okay on the surface, they are often destructive. You can identify a toxic relationship with some questions. Do you tend to override your instincts? Do you find yourself… [Read More]
The Illusion of Control
Control is a really common topic in my office. One very simplistic definition of anxiety is “an over-focus on things that may or may not happen,” in other words…thinking too much about things we can’t control, although we might be under the illusion that we can. So let’s talk about… [Read More]
What Is Your Anger Pointing To?
What is your anger pointing to? This is such a difficult, but oh so important question because most of us think we know the answer. And when we “ know” the answer, we naturally deny it’s possible for our anger to be coming from somewhere else. If you are willing, however,… [Read More]
When Expectations meet Reality
We don’t often think about the realm between expectation and reality. Usually, people move through life believing and trusting that everyday expectations and big picture expectations will pan out. Expectations can be what we make up in our minds about how something should be, how people should behave, how we… [Read More]
