Category: Anger
So You Want Justice?

So You Want Justice?

**Note: This article was written and posted prior to the death of George Floyd and in no way pertains to appropriate justice for that his...

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Living In Reactivity

Living In Reactivity

Have you ever been in a relationship living in reactivity, feeling like a screech owl? Some people believe no one can ‘make’ us feel anything. They believe it is all up to us....

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Taming The Abandonment Beast

Taming The Abandonment Beast

If you have abandonment, you know there is quite an art to taming the abandonment beast.  It is a force to be reckoned with, for sure, and needs to be tamed in order to have a...

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Where Is Your Anger Coming From?

Where Is Your Anger Coming From?

Where is your anger coming from? Is everyone mean? Or are we just sleepy, thirsty, or hungry? I recently had a session with a couple that wanted to work on communication in their...

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How To Keep Your Power When Arguing

How To Keep Your Power When Arguing

   Kathy Henry's video on how to keep your power when arguing.  This simple trick can help you keep the upper hand when arguing or fighting with your partner or spouse!...

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Rethinking Anger Management

Rethinking Anger Management

RETHINKING ANGER MANAGEMENT One of the most common calls we receive at Healing Hearts revolves around anger management. During a first meeting with a client who has anger issues,...

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The Blame Game

All blame is a waste of time.  How can I say that, do you suppose?  I mean, come on...there are times when people deserve to get blamed.  There IS such a thing as "fault" after...

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The Seven Year *itch

If you can pardon the somewhat vulgar insinuation, I promise I have a point to my choice for the title of this blog.  I just brewed up some Wild Mountain Blueberry coffee and am...

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10 Signs You Have Abandonment Issues

Abandonment issues? Wondering for sure if you have them or not?  You don’t have to have been left in a basket on a church doorstep in order to have abandonment issues.  I myself...

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What Is Your Anger Pointing To?

What is your anger pointing to?  This is such a difficult, but oh so important question because most of us think we know the answer. And when we “ know” the answer, we naturally...

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Why Do You NEED To Win The Argument?

Why do some arguments never end?  Why do you need to win?  Why do you just have to get the other person to see it your way?  These are the very things that keep many couples...

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The Valley Of The Shadow

Folks come to my office asking for counsel on all kinds of things.  Anger issues, help with communication, depression, anxiety, marital problems, trauma or addiction...

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Violent Communication

Do you use violent ways to communicate?  I don’t mean physically hurting someone (although we certainly don’t want that, either!)  What I’m talking about are ways that we...

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Co-Parenting After Divorce

When people get divorced they are often angry, bitter, hurt and devastated.  Their plans have been foiled and their lifestyle has changed.  But in addition to all that, they now...

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Poor Communication

Maneuvering through your own reactions takes understanding and knowledge of yourself. How you learned to manage your disappointment and frustration over the years contributes to...

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3 Parts of You

Do you know the different parts of yourself? Most of us are only vaguely aware of the 3 different parts that I like to talk about in counseling:  The Adult, The Little Boy/Girl,...

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The Blame Game

How do you discuss tough topics? If you are able to self-differentiate, not define yourself based on another person's actions or words, then you are able to hear another...

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Letting Go Of Resentment

Resentment is so incredibly common.  We all feel wronged by someone at some time or another, and where there is blame, over and over again, there is resentment.  Everyone walking...

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