Maybe you have heard of codependent or counterdependent before, but you don’t think that resonates with you. When you think of codependent, you may think of someone who can’t do...
Codependent or Counterdependent?
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Category: Codependent
Codependency Is Common
The term has such a negative connotation, I’ve found, but codependency is common. Traditionally, codependency has been viewed as an uneven dynamic between two individuals, one...
Are You Not Setting Healthy Boundaries?
Are you not setting healthy boundaries? Do you ever feel taken advantage of? Walked all over? When you speak it doesn’t matter what you say? People keep taking and taking from...
Are You Guilty Of Unhealthy Loyalty & Obligation?
Are you guilty of unhealthy loyalty & obligation? If you're in a relationship with an addict, you can probably are but you may not recognize it. Do you ever ask yourself...
5 Key Recovery Tips After a Toxic Relationship
Want to know 5 key recovery tips after a toxic relationship? Whether you were with a textbook Narcissist or someone who was simply not a healthy fit for your life. A...
The Pain Of Codependence
If you have codependence, you know it can be painful. But WHY? Where does the pain come from and how can we make it stop? In my opinion, the deepest pain of codependence comes...
The Blame Game
All blame is a waste of time. How can I say that, do you suppose? I mean, come on...there are times when people deserve to get blamed. There IS such a thing as "fault" after...
Insulation vs. Isolation
By request...today we are going to talk about a way of thinking, a paradigm that will help navigate the waters of relationship with folks that may not always be all that safe....
Toxic Relationships
Toxic relationships can include family, friends, co-workers, intimate partners, spouses, just about anyone. Even an acquaintance. Though toxic relationships tend to seem okay on...
The Illusion of Control
Control is a really common topic in my office. One very simplistic definition of anxiety is "an over-focus on things that may or may not happen," in other words...thinking too...
Why Do You NEED To Win The Argument?
Why do some arguments never end? Why do you need to win? Why do you just have to get the other person to see it your way? These are the very things that keep many couples...
Choosing Your People
It is a bright moment in a person's life when the realization comes that there are choices in relationships and the form, substance and significance of those relationships. We...
Boundary vs. Ultimatum
I cannot tell you how many times I have helped folks who have difficulties having boundaries to develop better ones, only to have their spouses get super reactive to those new...
Journey Back to Loving (Part 2, sort of)
Is your sense of unworthiness keeping you from embracing, communicating, and meeting your emotional needs? Let's talk. The original intent of this writing was to discuss the book...
Is Your No Broken?
Is your No broken? Do you find you can't say No? Tired of your mouth saying “Yes” when your brain says “No”? Do you accept invitations out of guilt instead of desire? Do you...
Yes, or No?
I ran across a really good quote today that spoke to me. Louie Giglio said "Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. Make sure your yes is...
What Kind of Self-Care Are You Getting?
What happens if you don’t get self-care in a healthy way? You will get it in an unhealthy way! Don’t believe me? Read on to learn the difference between the two and then see...
If I Could Give Each Person Just One Gift
If I could give each person just one gift, it would be the gift of being able to truly see themselves through the eyes of the people around them. It would be a sobering gift,...
3 Parts of You
Do you know the different parts of yourself? Most of us are only vaguely aware of the 3 different parts that I like to talk about in counseling: The Adult, The Little Boy/Girl,...
Do You Suffer From the Doormat Syndrome?
Do you suffer from the doormat syndrome? Getting asked that question may feel like a slap in the face; especially if it is true. It is not easy to hear that we are a doormat,...
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