Love and connection…that’s what clients want that come in for marriage counseling. The multiple divorces and remarriages are evidence of the lack of love people feel in relationships. So why does it seem so difficult to have something that seems simple and easy. Love costs nothing, love is safe, love feels nice, love is natural, and love is the best feeling to share with someone else. One of the top complaints I hear from clients is that one person doesn’t feel connected to the other.
Can you relate to the following experiences?
- I often feel rejected
- I feel like he or she does not understand me
- I feel disconnected from my partner
- I feel lonely in my relationship
- I feel criticized most of the time
- I often have to revisit old issues
- I often feel I have to protect/defend myself
- I feel unimportant or insignificant
If you answered yes to any of these scenarios then chances are you’re feeling unloved. So how can this change? The old problem solving techniques are not working for you anymore. Chances are you’re also feeling disconnected.
Do you often say to yourself, “Why can’t he just love me?” Or “Why is he avoiding me?” If you feel like you are banging your head against a brick wall because your partner can’t love you, then it’s time to consider talking with a third party.
Do you want to continue having the same negative experience where you’re doing the same thing over and over again? Do you want to continue having the same negative experience where you’re doing the same thing over and over again? My guess is you want to change your relationship so you are no longer banging your head against a wall, but you don’t know what to do. Marriage counseling can change your relationship for the better. Counseling can help!