Imagine a guy driving his speedboat down the river. It’s a gorgeous day, the water is smooth like glass, and he’s zooming along having a great boat ride. He thinks it’s the...
Angry Men . . . Passive Women
read more
Category: Marital Therapy
Angry Women . . . Passive Men
She practically levitated off my couch. The anger this woman had been storing for years was spilling out of her and all her husband could do was sink deeper into the sofa. By...
Pin The Tail On The Donkey
Are you sick of not getting your needs met? Do you feel like you have been screaming at the top of your lungs, but your partner claims to have no idea what you want from them? ...
Stuffing & Suffering
Are you a Stuffer? When something bad or unpleasant happens, do you dismiss it, minimize it, or just quit talking about it? Maybe you try to talk about it, but, when met with...
A Snake in the Grass
The Snake Story One day there was a man driving through the desert. A snake on the side of the road flags down the man as he is driving. The man pulls over and the snake says,...
Sitting In Your Stuff
”I feel like a crappy husband and father.” This was the response I got from a client recently when I asked him how he felt after seeing the movie, Courageous. I was intrigued...
A Quick Glance in the Mirror – Codependency
I recently had someone comment that discussing codependency feels like "man bashing." That some of the writing and talking I do about being independent and having power in a...
Porn Ponderings
She thinks it's cheating, he thinks it's no big deal. Neither are right. The truth lies somewhere in the middle. Honestly speaking, porn use creates a lot of clients for...
Tears of Joy
Marriage counseling can be successful, but therapy work is full of pain, sadness, and tears. Couples come in full of anger and resentment towards each other. They yell, they...
Trick or Treat
When you look into a child's eyes when they are all dressed up in their Halloween costumes, all you see is joy, fun, excitement. Dressing up and pretending to be someone they are...
Reflection Reflections
She catches her reflection in the window. "How appropriate," she thinks, "I'm barely visible." "Where did I go? I used to have ideas, thoughts, beliefs, opinions, interests of...
What’s Under YOUR Hood?
People don’t get it. They come to couples counseling presumably to fix their relationship, but what they often are really after is an overhaul on their partner! Let’s face it....
“I just can’t talk to you!!” (and other forms of Emotional Cut-Off)
I Just Can't Talk To You "I just can't talk to you!!", she screamed, and then she stalked out of the room and slammed the door. This is emotional cut-off. He knew that the rest...
Therapy – Time to Get Real!
Is Therapy A Place For Venting? Feel free to come into my office and vent. Vent all you want in therapy about your partner and how "they do this!" or "they don't do this!" "They...
The Fantasy of Marriage
The Fantasy "A knight in shining armor is going to come and take me away from my family that doesn't care for me." "My wife will listen to me and meet my needs the way my family...
Facebook: Friend or Foe
A Common Topic Recently it seems as if Facebook comes up non-stop in my sessions. I have recently joked with clients that if I had a dollar for every time I heard the word...
Fix Them Please!
Common Myths In Marriage Counseling It's something I hear everyday. "I did not do anything wrong in this marriage, she is the one that had an affair." "He has an addiction and he...
Fun in Marriage: The Fun Pie Hog
If you were to measure all of the fun in marriage, is your wife or husband a fun pie hog? A fun pie hog, what is that? Well it is exactly what it sounds like. Imagine there was a...
Fighting in Marriage – The Power of Positive Connection
Strengthening Your Marriage: The Power of Positive Connection in Carmel, Indiana Marriage counselors often see couples in intense conflict. Arguments seem to escalate quickly. It...
Courage – The Mysterious Hidden Power Pellet
Courage and Recovery: Finding Strength Through Counseling in Carmel, Indiana The word courage has been on my mind recently. And I’ve realized something powerful: courage is a...
Categories
Abandonment
Addiction
Affairs
Anger
Anxiety
Codependent
Communication
Counterdependent
Depression
Differentiation
Divorce
Family Counseling
Grief
Individual Therapy
Intimacy
Marital Therapy
Marriage
Parenting
PTSD
Relationships
Self Abandonment
Self-Help
Separation
Shame
Uncategorized
Vulnerability
Our Blog