What Is Your Fantasy Relationship?

by Kathy | May 26, 2013

I was reminded again this week about one thing that trips most couples up. . . the fantasy relationship. Fantasy husband would help me around the house. No, he would want to...

Can You Stay Connected When You Are Reactive?

by Kathy | May 19, 2013

We talk a lot about trying to stay non-reactive, but nobody can do it 100%. If you aren’t supposed to get reactive (yelling, defensive, attacking, etc.) and it is not healthy to...

How To Stop The Crazy Train

by Kathy | May 12, 2013

Ever ride the crazy train with your partner? This is when you keep talking and/or arguing about something but it never seems to reach resolution. In fact, it grows in...

What’s Holding You Back?

by Kathy | May 5, 2013

Imagine yourself born as a Siamese twin. Conjoined at the hip, side, shoulder, maybe even at the head. Everywhere you want to walk, you have to tug, or force, or convince your...

Where To Find The Cure For Abandonment

by Kathy | Apr 28, 2013

Where do you find the cure for abandonment? People who suffer from abandonment experience such excruciating pain that they will do anything to make it go away. Usually,...

2 Communication Elements That Work Like Magic

by Kathy | Apr 14, 2013

What 2 elements does communication need in order for it to work? Couples always come in saying their problem is “communication” – and that is A problem, but it is not THE...

2 Codependent Words I Hate

by Kathy | Apr 7, 2013

There are 2 codependent words that I have learned to hate – “have to”! These 2 words are spoken with great passion by codependents the world over! They “have to” take forgotten...

A Mature Kind Of Love

by Kathy | Mar 31, 2013

What kind of love do you have for your significant other? We trade the “L” word, but what does the concept of love really mean? I think the kind of love we all want is a mature...

Marriage Counseling Is A Temporary Patch

by Kathy | Mar 24, 2013

Marriage counseling is supposed to fix marriages, isn’t it? Well, not exactly. In my humble opinion, marriage counseling is just a temporary patch. When a couple comes in and...

Codependents: What Is Your Bottom Line?

by Kathy | Mar 17, 2013

Are you fed up? Are you tired of feeling yanked around, manipulated, afraid to complain about behavior, feeling out of control, tired of trying everything you know to get your...

How Do You Seek Relief?

by Kathy | Mar 10, 2013

How do you seek relief when you are in emotional pain? We all have our “go to” methods that we use to give ourselves immediate relief. . . food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex,...

What Most Relationships Lack

by Kathy | Mar 3, 2013

Relationships that are in turmoil lack an important ingredient. Fortunately, what they are lacking can be developed, but it is not easy! What do most relationships lack? ...

Are You Addicted To Your Relationship?

by Kathy | Feb 24, 2013

Are you addicted to your relationship? Do you spend an inordinate amount of time . . . Thinking about your partner? Talking about them? Trying to please them? Being angry at...

How Do You Test Your Relationships?

by Kathy | Feb 17, 2013

Do you “test” your relationships? Testing is a primitive way to see if we are loved. Basically the Tester (I’ll call them ‘Needy One’) feels insecure, unloved, etc., and they...

The Truth About Lies

by Kathy | Feb 10, 2013

I told a “little white lie” this week. I’m not proud of it and after it tugged on my heart for a few days, I came clean with the person I told it to. I didn’t lie about...

What Do You Need From Your Spouse?

by Kathy | Feb 3, 2013

Do you really know what you need from your spouse? I think we all have an idea what we need, but most of us are woefully out of touch with what our essential needs really are....

What Will Make Your Life Go Smoothly?

by Kathy | Jan 27, 2013

What will make your life go so much more smoothly on a day-to-day, year after year basis? What will decrease the pain during the harsh, cold winters of your life and increase...

What Your Relationship Can’t Survive Without

by Kathy | Jan 20, 2013

There is one thing, I have discovered, that your relationship can’t survive without. Its opposite will cause difficulty in your relationship or kill it altogether. What is it...

What Your Spouse Wants You To Know

by Kathy | Jan 13, 2013

What does your spouse really want you to know? Here are two key things that everyone who is in a committed relationship needs to know. . . “I want to know there is someone that...

What Is Your Relationship Telling You?

by Kathy | Jan 6, 2013

Do you long for the freedom to just be who you are? To live without worries of rejection and judgment? Listen to what your relationship is telling you! We all present to the...

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