Change is not easy. Sometimes people think that if you want a change bad enough change is easy; but change is not easy. If it were easy, no one would smoke, everyone would eat...
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Blogs By: Christy Aloisio
Does An Affair Always End A Marriage?
“The only reason this marriage would end is if you cheated on me.” This or some version of this is something most people say before they walk down the aisle. Even if it is not...
Is There Sex After Marriage?
One marital myth that I think many people hear about is that once you get married, you stop having sex. This marital myth or fact is a little bit harder to answer because this...
Marital Fact or Fiction: Our Issue is Communication
One marital myth that I hear quite often in my office is that the root of most marital issues is trouble with communication. It is not uncommon for couples to come in seeking...
Marriage Fact or Fiction: The Seven Year Itch
Welcome to marriage fact or fiction! I am starting a weekly series to either confirm or debunk marital myths. Enjoy! It is popular belief that marriages suffer from the "seven...
Do You Ever Take a Ride on the Shame Train?
Do you ever take a ride on the shame train? The shame train is when one horrible thought you may have about yourself turns into another and then another. The shame train makes...
Signs Your Spouse is Having An Affair
I recently read an article that was talking about what signs you should look for to tell if your spouse is cheating on you. The signs the article shared seemed to be right on...
Why Does Your Marriage Lack Intimacy?
Having intimacy in a marriage is not just about having a healthy sexual relationship. There is emotional intimacy as well that is being connected on a deep emotional level. Not...
Why It Is Your Spouse’s Fault
There tends to be a lot of finger pointing that happens in my office. "But he did this or you should see the way she tries to control me." It is the focus on what the other...
Are You Being Real In Your Marriage
It seems as though just about every client grimaces a bit when I share this piece of feedback. "People are happier when they can see themselves outside of their relationship."...
How People Pleasing Hurts You
When you are a people pleaser, the list of people in your life that you try to makehappy can often times be endless. It is not always confined to just your spouse, kids, or...
Where is Your Anxiety Coming From?
It seems as though anxiety is running rampant in our society today. I see clients everyday whose anxiety is a problem big enough that it affects their life on a weekly or...
3 Signs You May Be Codependent
The word codependent is thrown around a lot. Most of the time people hear the word in relation with being married to an alcoholic. Although it is true that if you are married to...
Being Vulnerable in Your Marriage May Be Harder Than it Seems
As most brides are walking down the aisle the last thought going through their heads is most likely how difficult it may be one day to open up and be vulnerable with their...
The Great Marital Divide
Many couples have felt the great marital divide. The divide that cannot be physically seen, but can be felt by both husband and wife. The gap can feel as big as the Grand Canyon....
Where Did You Learn to Be Married?
Couple after couple come in and sit on the couch and ask, "where did we go wrong?" They look back at their wedding day full of bliss, excitement, and hope and cannot imagine why...
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
One of the more frequent issues I see in my office is a spouse or even a couple together trying to decide if they should stay married or move on and proceed with a divorce. Many...
Is There Enough of You to Love?
I have had many clients over the years come to my office, sit on my couch, and quietly sob while sharing the pain they feel because their spouse has told them that they do not...
Why Distance and Separateness Are a Recipe for Marriage Disaster
It seems to happen to most couples at some time or another in a marriage. The distance or "roommate" bug comes up and bites you. Busy lives get in the way of spending time...
What Therapy Is, and What Therapy Is Not
I think many people who have not participated in therapy have some misconceptions of what therapy is and what it is not. Some of these misconceptions are what keep people from...
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