There is a common thread amongst most of the women that I speak to. Some of you may hear it and disagree, but I challenge you to dig deep into the recesses of your soul and see...
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Blogs By: Kathy
How Cookies Damage Your Relationship
This week I made an interesting connection about how cookies damage our relationships! These are not your standard chocolate chip or snickerdoodle variety, however, these...
What My Kids Have Taught Me
I officially join the ranks of parents with “grown” children this weekend. I have experienced what seems like every emotion known to man in my decades of parenting . . . joy,...
What Is Your Fantasy Relationship?
I was reminded again this week about one thing that trips most couples up. . . the fantasy relationship. Fantasy husband would help me around the house. No, he would want to...
Can You Stay Connected When You Are Reactive?
We talk a lot about trying to stay non-reactive, but nobody can do it 100%. If you aren’t supposed to get reactive (yelling, defensive, attacking, etc.) and it is not healthy to...
How To Stop The Crazy Train
Ever ride the crazy train with your partner? This is when you keep talking and/or arguing about something but it never seems to reach resolution. In fact, it grows in...
What’s Holding You Back?
Imagine yourself born as a Siamese twin. Conjoined at the hip, side, shoulder, maybe even at the head. Everywhere you want to walk, you have to tug, or force, or convince your...
Where To Find The Cure For Abandonment
Where do you find the cure for abandonment? People who suffer from abandonment experience such excruciating pain that they will do anything to make it go away. Usually,...
If You Are Tired Of Getting Walked On . . .
If you are tired of getting walked on . . . then get up off of the floor! (Al-Anon saying) I love this quote. It succinctly states the obvious that most codependents cannot even...
2 Communication Elements That Work Like Magic
What 2 elements does communication need in order for it to work? Couples always come in saying their problem is “communication” – and that is A problem, but it is not THE...
2 Codependent Words I Hate
There are 2 codependent words that I have learned to hate – “have to”! These 2 words are spoken with great passion by codependents the world over! They “have to” take forgotten...
A Mature Kind Of Love
What kind of love do you have for your significant other? We trade the “L” word, but what does the concept of love really mean? I think the kind of love we all want is a mature...
Marriage Counseling Is A Temporary Patch
Marriage counseling is supposed to fix marriages, isn’t it? Well, not exactly. In my humble opinion, marriage counseling is just a temporary patch. When a couple comes in and...
Codependents: What Is Your Bottom Line?
Are you fed up? Are you tired of feeling yanked around, manipulated, afraid to complain about behavior, feeling out of control, tired of trying everything you know to get your...
How Do You Seek Relief?
How do you seek relief when you are in emotional pain? We all have our “go to” methods that we use to give ourselves immediate relief. . . food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex,...
What Most Relationships Lack
Relationships that are in turmoil lack an important ingredient. Fortunately, what they are lacking can be developed, but it is not easy! What do most relationships lack? ...
Are You Addicted To Your Relationship?
Are you addicted to your relationship? Do you spend an inordinate amount of time . . . Thinking about your partner? Talking about them? Trying to please them? Being angry at...
How Do You Test Your Relationships?
Do you “test” your relationships? Testing is a primitive way to see if we are loved. Basically the Tester (I’ll call them ‘Needy One’) feels insecure, unloved, etc., and they...
The Truth About Lies
I told a “little white lie” this week. I’m not proud of it and after it tugged on my heart for a few days, I came clean with the person I told it to. I didn’t lie about...
What Do You Need From Your Spouse?
Do you really know what you need from your spouse? I think we all have an idea what we need, but most of us are woefully out of touch with what our essential needs really are....
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