Cliff Dives

by Javan | Sep 15, 2013

The opportunity for personal growth shows itself everyday in our lives. As a therapist, I am blessed to work with people who desire a better relationship with themselves. We are...

Good People and Affairs

by Javan | Sep 6, 2013

Finding out about an affair is devastating. As the fear of the ultimate abandonment comes to life, the storm of self-blame, insecurity, and self-doubt can spin into...

Butters Ate My Shoes

by Javan | Aug 30, 2013

Butters handles his loneliness and anxiety by sometimes eating my shoes. Heels and All! We had a scare recently where he had gotten into some old doggie meds. That was ruff!! In...

The Javelin of Anger

by Javan | Aug 23, 2013

We can't control other people or outside situations, but we can do something about what we think and how we choose to react. We can only change and control ourselves. Seems...

Drowning Out Your Partner

by Javan | Aug 18, 2013

Life can be very demanding. Between work, kids, spouse, bills, planning, doing....all of it. Relationships take a lot of work. Marriage takes a ton of work. Have you wondered why...

“Mind Blown” Hangover

by Javan | Aug 10, 2013

Awesomeness, Mind Blown Hangover……anyone know what I’m talking about? Ever had life experiences that change your life? Alter your brain, your outlook? Make you want to change, do...

Change and Hope

by Javan | Aug 2, 2013

Being able to see the hope is not a choice for everyone. Some days are a struggle. This is for you, who have struggled, grown, and remained hopeful even when all seemed hopeless....

Resentment Kills Marriages

by Javan | Jul 21, 2013

Resentment is defined as "Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly." (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...

Passive Vs. Direct

by Javan | Jul 11, 2013

Are you a people pleaser? A controller? A SuperMan? A SuperMom? Highly confident? Are you always in your head? Are you the fixer or rescuer? How would others describe you? The...

HEALthy Self…..Heal THY Self

by Javan | Jul 3, 2013

How do you know when you have had enough and want to end a relationship? What is Love? Is there such a thing as "not enough love" or "someone just isn't good enough for me?" What...

Life Changes and Loss

by Javan | Jun 26, 2013

Grief can mean a lot of things. Sometimes it's losing someone you love. Sometimes it's not having life go the way you thought it would. Sometimes it's about an old pain that...

Grieving Seasons of Loss

by Javan | Jun 13, 2013

Yes, there are seasons in life. Some harder than others. This has been a season of grieving in my life. My father passed away last month and the grief has been larger than...

“You never support me!”

by Javan | Apr 28, 2013

Do you feel like your husband doesn't understand you or do what you need? Do you feel disappointed or deeply hurt? Most people have needs and wants of their loved ones. When...

Compassion

by Javan | Apr 21, 2013

Compassion…. a simple word, a simple concept, a lovely experience to both provide and receive. However, compassion is rarely provided when it's needed. It’s easy to provide...

“I don’t feel APPRECIATED!”

by Javan | Apr 7, 2013

The definition of appreciation is "Recognition of the quality, value, significance, or magnitude of people and things." (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/appreciation. April,...

Processing Pain

by Javan | Mar 7, 2013

Emotional recovery from any painful situation involves deep processing. If you're asking yourself why, you've come to the right place. I can provide some clarity around why...

FEAR…..Muuahahahahahaaaaaaa!

by Javan | Oct 26, 2012

Well it IS almost Halloween! Are you aware that you make choices out of fear and worry? OK, are you aware of how many choices you make out of fear and worry? Some choices that...

Coping With Tragedy

by Kathy | Jun 13, 2010

In an instant, life changed forever for 2 people and their families yesterday. A young teenage boy set out on his moped for a friend’s house with surely nothing on his mind but...

Let’s start at the beginning!

by Christy Aloisio | May 11, 2010

I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I went to Decatur Central High School and went to Purdue...

Emotional Anorexia

by Christy Aloisio | Jan 1, 1970

Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...

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