Change and Hope

by Javan | Aug 2, 2013

Being able to see the hope is not a choice for everyone. Some days are a struggle. This is for you, who have struggled, grown, and remained hopeful even when all seemed hopeless....

Resentment Kills Marriages

by Javan | Jul 21, 2013

Resentment is defined as "Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly." (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...

Passive Vs. Direct

by Javan | Jul 11, 2013

Are you a people pleaser? A controller? A SuperMan? A SuperMom? Highly confident? Are you always in your head? Are you the fixer or rescuer? How would others describe you? The...

HEALthy Self…..Heal THY Self

by Javan | Jul 3, 2013

How do you know when you have had enough and want to end a relationship? What is Love? Is there such a thing as "not enough love" or "someone just isn't good enough for me?" What...

Life Changes and Loss

by Javan | Jun 26, 2013

Grief can mean a lot of things. Sometimes it's losing someone you love. Sometimes it's not having life go the way you thought it would. Sometimes it's about an old pain that...

Grieving Seasons of Loss

by Javan | Jun 13, 2013

Yes, there are seasons in life. Some harder than others. This has been a season of grieving in my life. My father passed away last month and the grief has been larger than...

“You never support me!”

by Javan | Apr 28, 2013

Do you feel like your husband doesn't understand you or do what you need? Do you feel disappointed or deeply hurt? Most people have needs and wants of their loved ones. When...

Compassion

by Javan | Apr 21, 2013

Compassion…. a simple word, a simple concept, a lovely experience to both provide and receive. However, compassion is rarely provided when it's needed. It’s easy to provide...

“I don’t feel APPRECIATED!”

by Javan | Apr 7, 2013

The definition of appreciation is "Recognition of the quality, value, significance, or magnitude of people and things." (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/appreciation. April,...

How Therapy Works

by Javan | Mar 24, 2013

Marital, individual, couples or family therapy is designed to help you identify personal struggles and make healthy changes. Therapy is not just about a painful childhood. Many...

Processing Pain

by Javan | Mar 7, 2013

Emotional recovery from any painful situation involves deep processing. If you're asking yourself why, you've come to the right place. I can provide some clarity around why...

FEAR…..Muuahahahahahaaaaaaa!

by Javan | Oct 26, 2012

Well it IS almost Halloween! Are you aware that you make choices out of fear and worry? OK, are you aware of how many choices you make out of fear and worry? Some choices that...

Therapy – Time to Get Real!

by Christy Aloisio | Aug 28, 2011

Feel free to come into my office and vent. Vent all you want in therapy about your partner and how "they do this!" or "they don't do this!" "They make me ..." Go ahead, spew this...

Group Therapy is Not Torture!

by Christy Aloisio | Aug 19, 2011

You should see the look on my clients faces when I suggest they go to group therapy. You would think I asked them to jump into a tank full of sharks with a cut on their leg....

Codependency – Be True To Who You Are

by Kathy | Jul 6, 2010

Recently on vacation, an opportunity arose to teach our teenage son a valuable lesson about codependency. We were fishing for the highly esteemed lake trout and when our son...

Polling – What Do You Think?

by Christy Aloisio | Jun 16, 2010

Are you guilty of polling? What do you think about? 'Well, I have this problem and was wondering, what would you do?' 'Can you believe he acted like that, what should I do about...

Dating – The “Dumpit” List

by Christy Aloisio | Jun 8, 2010

Everyone has heard of the bucket list, but I’m here to present you with the "dumpit" list. Dating after a divorce or breakup can be overwhelmingly intimidating for people. Not...

Codependent Recovery – Now I’m A Friend of Me!

by Kathy | May 27, 2010

I heard the sweetest words I've heard spoken in a long time today - "Now I'm a friend of me." This, coming from a codependent client who was so lost when I first met them. They...

Hitting Rock Bottom

by Kathy | May 17, 2010

I had a moment this morning at church relating to hitting rock bottom. The sermon brought up thankfulness. "Oh, sure!," you might be thinking, "yeah, yeah, take what you've got...

Counseling – Let’s start at the beginning!

by Christy Aloisio | May 11, 2010

How did I get into counseling? I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I went to Decatur Central...

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