8 Roadblocks To Recovery

by Kathy | Dec 30, 2012

One of the biggest questions I get asked in the counseling office is “How?” People understand the concepts we discuss, but they can’t see the pathway from where they are to...

The Key Ingredient To A Happy Life

by Kathy | Dec 23, 2012

There is one key ingredient to a happy life for which there is no substitute. Every single person has the ability to have it, regardless of how bad their life may seem. It...

How To Get Along With Your Family During The Holidays

by Kathy | Dec 16, 2012

Ever feel a sense of dread heading into a family gathering? With so many different personalities and generations entrenched in unrecognized dysfunction, the holidays are sure to...

How To Give Your Spouse The Perfect Gift This Year!

by Kathy | Dec 9, 2012

Once again faced with the daunting task of finding just the right gift for your spouse? It is certainly a challenge after you’ve been together for awhile. How DO you continue...

How To Be A Great Spouse

by Kathy | Dec 2, 2012

Everyone wants a great relationship - one that meets their needs, and provides a safe, soft, warm place to be who they are and to be accepted and loved. If you want a great...

You Spot It, You Got It!

by Kathy | Nov 25, 2012

It never ceases to amaze me. The longer I work with a couple and the more layers that get peeled back, it is fascinating how very much alike the two people are! I heard an...

An Ounce Of Prevention

by Kathy | Nov 18, 2012

Self-WHAT? It’s called self-care. I know it’s a foreign term to some, but if you don’t understand the concept of self-care, you’re in for some trouble! I regularly encounter...

Depression Is A Choice!

by Kathy | Nov 11, 2012

This one might get me into trouble, but I just have to say it. . . Depression is a Choice! Now, before you get all up in arms, please know that I am fully aware there is a...

Wake Up, Sweet Girl!

by Kathy | Nov 4, 2012

I’m coming up on an anniversary of a particularly bone-jarring loss that occurred in my life awhile back. I wasn’t public about it. I’m a counselor and I’m supposed to know how...

Who Stole My Innocence?

by Kathy | Oct 28, 2012

I spent last evening with my dear friend and her 13 month old son. Something struck me about him that I just couldn’t get over. I kept trying to figure it out all evening. I...

Fantasy vs. Reality

by Kathy | Oct 21, 2012

What is your fantasy? We all have them, in fact, a lot of times they are such an undercurrent of our day-to-day lives that we don’t even realize they exist! It is important...

The Stain

by Kathy | Oct 14, 2012

Recently someone told me about her struggles while painting her daughter’s bedroom. The daughter had written on the wall with a black marker. At first they painted over the...

Who Are You Really?

by Kathy | Oct 7, 2012

Who are you really? You may think you know, but may I suggest examining these two components to who we are? The Person I Present To The World (False Self) and Who I Really Am...

The Relationship Is Not The Destination

by Kathy | Sep 30, 2012

Does your relationship need a little tweaking? Perhaps it needs a major overhaul? Most people are drawn into counseling by a relationship that is not going the way they had...

How Do You Deal With Your Loneliness?

by Kathy | Sep 23, 2012

How do you deal with the loneliness in your life? "What loneliness?", you ask? The loneliness you are masking when you are constantly texting, surfing the net, facebooking,...

How Badly Do You Want Changes In Your Life?

by Kathy | Sep 16, 2012

Still wondering why you can’t get change to occur in your life? Maybe you’re not disgusted with yourself enough yet! Change will only occur when where you are at is more...

It May Be Time For A Tank Inspection

by Kathy | Sep 9, 2012

I know a guy who is so frustrated he can't see straight. He just wants to be loved! He wants to feel unconditional love from his wife, his family, the world, God; but it just...

Emotional Maturity: Are You 3 or 43?

by Kathy | Sep 2, 2012

How emotionally mature are you? We would all like to believe that we are mature, rational adults, but if we are honest with ourselves, we’ve all got some emotional immaturity in...

You And I Are One. . .

by Kathy | Aug 26, 2012

And Two Shall Become One! This common belief in marriage is a great concept – unless there is a debate about who gets to be “the one”! When this power struggle begins,...

Intimacy Hide & Seek

by Kathy | Aug 19, 2012

I thought intimacy was easy. You’re just supposed to love and be loved, right? Intimacy isn’t as much about love as it is about really “knowing” a person and about letting...

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