I told a “little white lie” this week. I’m not proud of it and after it tugged on my heart for a few days, I came clean with the person I told it to. I didn’t lie about...
The Truth About Lies
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Category: Marriage
What Do You Need From Your Spouse?
Do you really know what you need from your spouse? I think we all have an idea what we need, but most of us are woefully out of touch with what our essential needs really are....
What Will Make Your Life Go Smoothly?
What will make your life go so much more smoothly on a day-to-day, year after year basis? What will decrease the pain during the harsh, cold winters of your life and increase...
What Your Relationship Can’t Survive Without
There is one thing, I have discovered, that your relationship can’t survive without. Its opposite will cause difficulty in your relationship or kill it altogether. What is it...
What Your Spouse Wants You To Know
What does your spouse really want you to know? Here are two key things that everyone who is in a committed relationship needs to know. . . “I want to know there is someone that...
What Is Your Relationship Telling You?
Do you long for the freedom to just be who you are? To live without worries of rejection and judgment? Listen to what your relationship is telling you! We all present to the...
8 Roadblocks To Recovery
One of the biggest questions I get asked in the counseling office is “How?” People understand the concepts we discuss, but they can’t see the pathway from where they are to...
The Key Ingredient To A Happy Life
There is one key ingredient to a happy life for which there is no substitute. Every single person has the ability to have it, regardless of how bad their life may seem. It...
How To Get Along With Your Family During The Holidays
Ever feel a sense of dread heading into a family gathering? With so many different personalities and generations entrenched in unrecognized dysfunction, the holidays are sure to...
How To Give Your Spouse The Perfect Gift This Year!
Once again faced with the daunting task of finding just the right gift for your spouse? It is certainly a challenge after you’ve been together for awhile. How DO you continue...
How To Be A Great Spouse
Everyone wants a great relationship - one that meets their needs, and provides a safe, soft, warm place to be who they are and to be accepted and loved. If you want a great...
You Spot It, You Got It!
It never ceases to amaze me. The longer I work with a couple and the more layers that get peeled back, it is fascinating how very much alike the two people are! I heard an...
An Ounce Of Prevention
Self-WHAT? It’s called self-care. I know it’s a foreign term to some, but if you don’t understand the concept of self-care, you’re in for some trouble! I regularly encounter...
Depression Is A Choice!
This one might get me into trouble, but I just have to say it. . . Depression is a Choice! Now, before you get all up in arms, please know that I am fully aware there is a...
Wake Up, Sweet Girl!
I’m coming up on an anniversary of a particularly bone-jarring loss that occurred in my life awhile back. I wasn’t public about it. I’m a counselor and I’m supposed to know how...
Who Stole My Innocence?
I spent last evening with my dear friend and her 13 month old son. Something struck me about him that I just couldn’t get over. I kept trying to figure it out all evening. I...
Fantasy vs. Reality
What is your fantasy? We all have them, in fact, a lot of times they are such an undercurrent of our day-to-day lives that we don’t even realize they exist! It is important...
The Stain
Recently someone told me about her struggles while painting her daughter’s bedroom. The daughter had written on the wall with a black marker. At first they painted over the...
Who Are You Really?
Who are you really? You may think you know, but may I suggest examining these two components to who we are? The Person I Present To The World (False Self) and Who I Really Am...
The Relationship Is Not The Destination
Does your relationship need a little tweaking? Perhaps it needs a major overhaul? Most people are drawn into counseling by a relationship that is not going the way they had...
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