Desperately In Love With You!

by Kathy | Aug 12, 2012

“I’m desperately in love with you!” Taylor Swift sang from the country radio station I was listening to. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy Taylor’s music, but these words just struck...

Your Spouse Is A Gift To You

by Kathy | Aug 5, 2012

What did you get married for? Did you expect your partner would love you unconditionally for all time? That’s what most of us planned on when we entered our marital contract. ...

Climbing Mt. Everest

by Kathy | Jul 22, 2012

Changing behavior is SO hard, isn’t it? This is especially hard when our behavior is driven from such deep wounds as abandonment and shame! To switch from our knee jerk...

Get A Hold of Yourself!

by Kathy | Jul 8, 2012

I had an awesome experience recently! The details don’t really matter, it is my reaction to it that I want to share! Let me explain . . . In each of us there are multiple...

Split Up Or Stay Together?

by Kathy | Jul 1, 2012

We all get in relationships thinking we will never split up, but when problems hit and the possibility of parting ways is considered we are usually in panic mode. I want to...

Abandonment: A Famine of the Soul

by Kathy | Jun 24, 2012

I heard the perfect descriptive phrase this week . . . “famine of the soul”. Wow. I love it! It perfectly describes abandonment. Many people spend most of their lives...

How Well Do You Apologize?

by Kathy | Jun 18, 2012

How good are you at apologizing? People range from never apologizing to apologizing even when something is not even remotely their fault! How well do YOU apologize? No apology...

I Feel Pain, What’d You Do?

by Kathy | Jun 10, 2012

Are you guilty of something I like to call I Feel Pain, What’d You Do? The idea is that if you’re feeling some kind of discomfort, someone must have done something to cause it! ...

Are You An Over-Functioner?

by Kathy | Jun 3, 2012

Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...

Why Do We Tell And Re-Tell Our Stories?

by Kathy | May 27, 2012

Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...

Victimy or Validating?

by Kathy | May 20, 2012

If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...

Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!

by Kathy | May 13, 2012

Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...

What’s At The Heart of YOUR Marital Issues?

by Kathy | May 6, 2012

Do you know what’s at the heart of your marital issues? What I’m talking about are the core issues, the deep fears and insecurities buried inside you and your spouse. If you...

What NOT To Do After An Affair

by Kathy | Apr 29, 2012

There is little less painful than witnessing the devastation people suffer in the wake of an affair. Handling it the wrong way, however, will most likely lead to the agony of a...

What Did We Get Married For Anyway?

by Kathy | Apr 22, 2012

Marriage vows make me chuckle. We get all dressed up and arrange all the pomp and circumstance to publicly profess our vows to one another. In reality, however, nobody has any...

The Driver of Codependence? Abandonment

by Kathy | Apr 15, 2012

Codependence hurts. It is giving and giving and giving more, wanting something desperately in return – for someone to care enough to love us the same way in return. But what...

The Amazing Parallels of Life

by Kathy | Apr 8, 2012

I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...

Where Do You Invest Your Gold?

by Kathy | Apr 1, 2012

If you won the lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money? Would you spend it lavishly and wastefully? Or would you invest it in something that will protect it and help...

Do You Have Emotional Trust?

by Kathy | Mar 25, 2012

I had a couple in my office recently and they were going back and forth. I wondered why such a simple conversation was so difficult. Then it hit me ~ they don’t trust each...

The Saddest Thing I’ve Ever Seen

by Kathy | Mar 17, 2012

These past few weeks I've been in a position to witness one of the saddest things I've ever seen. A marriage destroyed by addiction. Oh, sure, marriages get destroyed by...

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