Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...
Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!
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Category: Relationships
What NOT To Do After An Affair
There is little less painful than witnessing the devastation people suffer in the wake of an affair. Handling it the wrong way, however, will most likely lead to the agony of a...
What Did We Get Married For Anyway?
Marriage vows make me chuckle. We get all dressed up and arrange all the pomp and circumstance to publicly profess our vows to one another. In reality, however, nobody has any...
The Driver of Codependence? Abandonment
Codependence hurts. It is giving and giving and giving more, wanting something desperately in return – for someone to care enough to love us the same way in return. But what...
The Amazing Parallels of Life
I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...
Where Do You Invest Your Gold?
If you won the lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money? Would you spend it lavishly and wastefully? Or would you invest it in something that will protect it and help...
How To Have An Awesome Marriage
People search the world over to find out how to have an awesome marriage, but do you know why they have such a hard time finding it? It is because they want what is easy, not...
Do You Hear Yourself?
I work really hard with people on how to not take angry outbursts personally and to respond in a healthier way - but this one is for you – those with the angry retorts, venomous...
After a Fight, An Olive Branch Eases the Pain
When couples fight, it is often tricky finding a way back to ‘good’ once the gloves have come off. And Olive Branch can help. Both sides are in their respective corners licking...
Fights – The Power of Positive Connection
Marriage counselors are constantly witness to couples in great conflict. The fights have increased and it seems that neither one of them can say or do anything without the other...
Courage – The Mysterious Hidden Power Pellet
The word 'courage' came up recently and it has really gotten me thinking: Courage is a HUGE component of recovery! I didn't realize it at the time and I'm only now putting this...
Counseling – Let’s start at the beginning!
How did I get into counseling? I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I went to Decatur Central...
Mutual Respect
Making Decisions You Won't Regret I had an interesting thing happen to me when I was with my son ordering his class ring recently that reminded me of the importance of mutual...
Mother’s Who Can’t Love
I have recently stumbled across a new book Mother's Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters by Susan Forward. I would highly recommend anyone who has a difficult, dramatic,...
Paradigm Shift – Suddenly I See . . .
Ever had a paradigm shift? Remember the picture of a young woman in a long flowing dress? No matter what way you look at it, the picture is of a young woman. Someone else says...
Emotional Anorexia
Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...
Navigating Relationships With In-Laws
You managed to find and marry your absolute soulmate—lucky you! Nothing can come between the two of you now. Or is navigating relationships with In-Laws proving a bit more...
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