How Did I Get Into Counseling?
I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I attended Decatur Central High School before going to Purdue University to study Biology. After two great years, I realized Biology wasn’t the right fit and switched my major to Nursing. I moved back to Indianapolis, transferred to IUPUI, and graduated with a Bachelor’s in Nursing in December 2003.
During the last two years of nursing school, I worked as a student nurse on an oncology floor. After graduation, I continued there as a Registered Nurse. About a year later, I transitioned to labor and delivery nursing, which suited me better. I enjoyed nursing and was good at it, but I never felt the passion I had hoped for. I wanted something more. In 2006, I returned to IUPUI to pursue a Master’s in Social Work with the goal of becoming a counselor.
Writing this, I struggled with how much of my personal recovery story to share. I debated whether to include the challenges I’ve faced or just stick to the basics about my education. Ultimately, I realized my experiences are exactly why I became a counselor. The changes I’ve made in my life and the lessons I’ve learned fuel my passion for helping others. Here’s my story and why I do the work I love.
The Lesson of Marriage
I got married right after finishing nursing school, but that marriage ended in divorce just two years later. In a little over a year, I went from living the “American Dream” of a house, husband, and career to confronting the reality of a difficult marriage. I discovered that my spouse was struggling with sexual addiction, counterdependency, and narcissism. Examining why I had allowed myself to marry someone who couldn’t meet my needs taught me a lot. This process revealed how codependent I had been. It also brought to light my struggles with abandonment issues.
Although the marriage ended in divorce, it marked the beginning of a journey toward healing and self-discovery. I had been living for others, not for myself. Through this experience, I learned to recognize my needs and how to get them met. This transformation was powerful, and I became a very different person. I found the process fascinating and wanted to share these insights with others.
Why I Share My Story
I chose to share this part of my story because it reflects why I am passionate about counseling. Having navigated similar challenges myself, I understand the pain that comes with codependency and infidelity. I also know there can be hope at the end of the tunnel.
The journey wasn’t easy or short. It required hard work, self-reflection, and growth. But the changes I made were worth every step. Today, I live for myself, honor my needs, and approach relationships with a strong, non-reactive voice.
I have since remarried and am in a relationship where I feel heard and respected. My partner and I enjoy traveling, camping, boating, cheering for the Colts and Cubs, spending time with friends and family, and caring for our two rescued greyhounds.
Counseling others who struggle with codependency is my passion. I love guiding individuals to empower themselves, set boundaries, and learn to love themselves fully. Helping people understand codependency and teaching them to focus on controlling their own behaviors—not others’—is deeply rewarding.
Contact me today. I’d love to help you on your journey to recovery! christy@healingheartsofindy.com
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