What’s Under YOUR Hood?

People don’t get it.  They come to couple’s counseling presumably to fix their relationship, but what they often are really after is an overhaul on their partner!  Let’s face it. .   When the engine of the relationship isn’t purring anymore, we are all too eager to...

Is Your Abandonment Bigger Than You Are?

Is your abandonment bigger than you are?  Does it haunt you in the middle of the night? Does it cause you to dig through your spouse’s phone records & text messages?  Do you freak out if your significant other is late coming home? Does it cause you bite the...

A Perfect Prison

I am a prisoner.  My cell is my fear – fear of saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, writing the wrong words, having the wrong opinion.  What is it that makes a person live their entire life in a prison of fear?  My prison is called perfection – I hate it and...

The Power of Positive Connection

Marriage counselors are constantly witness to couples in great conflict. The fights have increased and it seems that neither one of them can say or do anything without the other person taking offense to it. When the power of positive connection erodes, actions and...