Understanding the System Within the Self

Referring to reactivity, most think of it in a negative context. It is not always screeching (please refer to blog entitled ‘My Life as a Screech Owl’) nagging or crying. Reactivity can also be self-soothing, withdrawing, cutting off, and the list goes on. In fact, I...

From Pain, Through Strength, Discover Hope

As therapists we are necessarily aware of the pain of the human condition. Some of this awareness is a result of our profession and much of it results from the work we do on ourselves. I found it entertaining when along the line someone suggested therapists become...

Pulling the Trigger on Abandonment

After fifty years, the loneliness caused by a father walking down the back stairs and out of his two year old daughter’s life is recreated by a husband who simply needs time alone, visits with an old friend or  comes home late from work. The emotional pain caused by a...