by Javan | Dec 1, 2013 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
The resistance to acknowledge childhood and family of origin issues is common. What you learn and tell yourself about your life experiences in your childhood is crucial to understanding and recognizing the obstacles in your marriage. These are defenses that have been... by Kathy | Nov 24, 2013 | Marriage
I’ve often said that anger is not about the other person, and that is true, but what does that mean? How do you get control of out of control anger? Intense anger is really a result of a poorly differentiated “self”. Let me explain . . . Self-differentiation is... by Javan | Nov 8, 2013 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years?? At first, you can’t imagine how this sweet, lovely person could ever be hurtful or angry. Then, after a few years,... by Javan | Jul 21, 2013 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
Resentment is defined as “Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the truth. This is usually what prompts the need for marriage counseling. Someone... by Javan | Jun 26, 2013 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
Grief can mean a lot of things. Sometimes it’s losing someone you love. Sometimes it’s not having life go the way you thought it would. Sometimes it’s about an old pain that haunts you from a loss of long ago. Sometimes grief is the sadness that...