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Category: Codependent
A Quick Glance in the Mirror – Codependency
I recently had someone comment that discussing codependency feels like "man bashing." That some of the writing and talking I do about being independent and having power in a...
Trick or Treat
When you look into a child's eyes when they are all dressed up in their Halloween costumes, all you see is joy, fun, excitement. Dressing up and pretending to be someone they are...
Reflection Reflections
She catches her reflection in the window. "How appropriate," she thinks, "I'm barely visible." "Where did I go? I used to have ideas, thoughts, beliefs, opinions, interests of...
Codependency – The Vicious Triangle
The Last Characteristic We have finally come to the last characteristic of codependency, being passive in a relationship. Often feelings of being wronged or used; also called...
Codependent – Other Centered
Learning You Are Codependent Very few people come in to my office, hear that they are codependent, jump up and say, "Wow you are right. Thanks so much my problems are solved!" It...
Codependency – The Dig of Dependency
Characteristic # 2: Dependent and Needy Now it's time to look at the next characteristic of codependency; being dependent and needy. Codependents tend to cling onto relationships...
The Unsexy Side of Therapy – Codependency
You may have noticed how many articles we have on our website about counterdependency, but very little material on its counter part codependency. I've been told that the reason...
Group Therapy is Not Torture!
You should see the look on my clients faces when I suggest they go to group therapy. You would think I asked them to jump into a tank full of sharks with a cut on their leg....
Codependency Recovery – Find Your Sense of Self
Codependency Joke In one of my group sessions I was told a "codependency" joke. It goes like this: A codependent flies out to California and rents a convertible. As she is...
Family Roles and the Road Trip
Family vacations are supposed to be relaxing and fun. And while many of us have wonderful memories of trips with parents, siblings, in-laws, or our own children, we also remember...
Codependency – Walk Like a Duck
Have you ever looked back at your relationship and thought, “The signs were there all along… so why didn’t I see them?” There’s an old saying: If it walks like a duck and sounds...
Codependency – Be True To Who You Are
On a recent family vacation, I witnessed a powerful lesson about codependency and self-trust—and it came from my teenage son. We were fishing for lake trout when he reeled in the...
Codependent Polling – What Do You Think?
Stop Polling: Trust Yourself in Counseling and Recovery in Carmel, Indiana Are you guilty of codependent polling? You might ask yourself: “I have this problem. What would you...
Codependent Recovery – Now I’m A Friend of Me!
Codependent Recovery - Not Knowing Your Needs I heard the sweetest words I've heard spoken in a long time today - "Now I'm a friend of me." This, coming from a codependent client...
The Doormat Syndrome
Overcoming Codependency: Counseling for a Healthier You in Carmel, Indiana For many people living with codependency, life can feel like being a doormat. To the outside world, a...
Counseling – About Christy Aloisio
How Did I Get Into Counseling? I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I attended Decatur...
Weathering the Storm During Recovery
How to Weather the Storm During Marriage Recovery Recovery in marriage can feel a lot like surviving a long, harsh winter. As a marriage counselor, I often see couples experience...
What Is Healthy Detachment?
Healthy detachment sounds a bit like an oxymoron, right? It is not. It does not involve cutting off or building walls. In fact, healthy detachment is one of the greatest gifts...
The Amygdala – The REAL Cause for Emotional Reactivity
Emotional Reactivity in Marriage: How the Amygdala Hijacks Healthy Communication After years of providing marriage counseling and couples therapy, one pattern continues to stand...
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